Re: Son of ASM Taking Heat
settummanque, or blackeagle (blkeagle@DYNASTY.NET)
Tue, 16 Sep 1997 12:53:21 -0500
Frank Porter's son is taking a lot of heat:
>The other boys in his patrol are telling him "You don't deserve your rank.
>You wouldn't have it if it wasn't for your Dad."
"You're right. My Dad has taken an interest in what I'm doing, but he
doesn't do my work for me. He's not leading the patrol, I am. And I'm the
one working on the merit badges -- not my Dad."
"You can do the same thing. I'm just *lucky* that MY DAD's in the same Troop
(had to respond with that as a starter, Frank. Your son "deserves" to have
some sort of response to "come back" to those in his Patrol while at the
same time, not "getting into their faces".)
Your Troop needs to have a "sit-down", and they need to have one soon.
During the "sit-down", the Scoutmaster and Senior Patrol Leader need to
reassert some Scouting "truths" that perhaps have been forgotten by those in
the Troop...and bears repeating here:
* Each Scout works toward each rank at THEIR OWN PACE AND SPEED.
There is a time limit....18 years old...but if a Scout takes seven years to
make it to Eagle, and another takes two years and a half, that's good. They
are BOTH Eagle Scouts. And Eagle is a GOOD THING, no matter the time
taken to get there!
* The adults working with this Troop SUPPORT and DIRECTS the youth, but its
the YOUTH THAT RUN THE SHOW HERE.
* Rank is earned NOT BY PARENTAL PARTICIPATION, but by Scouts MEETING AND
EXCEEDING THE STANDARD REQUIREMENTS for each rank. There's no place in any
of the requirements that says "With your father, mother or other adult's
assistance...." It says "you" must compete the requirements. A Scout does
not get "extra points" or "credit" just because his mother or father is
assisting with the ownership and leadership of the Troop in any role.
When Eagle Scout applications are reviewed, there's no place on the
application that says "Are your parents registered with the BSA?"
*Boards of Review don't REVIEW REQUIREMENTS for ranks....they look at the
CHARACTER, CITIZENSHIP and PERSONAL FITNESS of each Scout that comes before
them. Those are standards, not "things that can change depending on who's
parents are in the Troop."
*finally, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN PROGRESS. The Scoutmaster, his
or her Assistants, and other parents -- including your own -- should and do
take interest in what you're doing and your progress. But we can't MAKE YOUR
PARENTS CARE; nor can we MAKE YOU CARE about what you do here. You're
responsible for earning those badges that your're interested in, in meeting
the camping and outdoor requirements, for meeting the leadership
requirements, and for attending and appearing before the Boards of Review.
You don't have to do anything if you choose not to....but be aware that the
job of the Scoutmaster and the Assistants are to motivate you and encourage
you and to let you know that YOU SHOULD BE MOVING FORWARD ALL OF THE TIME.
This is why ALL of the requirements for ALL of the Boy Scout work are in the
Boy Scout Handbook and Boy Scout Requirements books. You don't need an
adult to read you the requirements....you're old enough to read, go out and
meet, and earn the badge.
Such a meeting should be done with everyone sitting down and with a period
to allow those that feel that "the only ones advancing are those who's
"leaders" in the Troop to express their feelings and thoughts.
This also allows you as adult Scouters some time to CAREFULLY LISTEN to what
the Scouts -- including your own sons -- have to say. Some of what they may
say is "Mom, Dad...I love you and appreciate you being interested in what
I'm doing...but I need you to back off and perhaps not be so visible while
I'm going through this."
Hard pills to swallow down, especially when it's your son saying those
things to you in front of other Scouts. But it *may be* that it's not the
other Scouts that are saying "chill for a while"...
(c) 1997 Mike Walton ("no such thing as strong coffee,...") (502) 827-9201
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