Re: How much should my son improve?
Berk Moss (mossfam@TELEPORT.COM)
Sat, 9 Aug 1997 09:42:30 -0700
In reply to:
C.K.> Date: Wed, 6 Aug 1997 13:27:43 -0500
C.K.> From: Carol Kelley <ckelley@CAMBER.COM>
C.K.> Subject: Tenderfoot Requirements
C.K.> Hello All:
C.K.> I have a question about the physical fitness requirements for
C.K.> Tenderfoot. [snip].
C.K.> In my son's initial recording of the various areas, he was not
C.K.> able to do even 1 pullup. [snip].
C.K.> Well, after approximately two months, he still [snip].
C.K.> My question is how much should we make him improve? [snip].
C.K.> Carol Kelley CC - Pack 301 MC - Troop 1 Tennessee Valley Council
C.K.> Huntsville, AL I am a First Class Girl Scout
In all humility, I'd suggest "Woah, Mama!" I'm sure Scout Kelley is a fine
young man. Let the Troop leadership work with him on advancement unless he
approaches you about a requirement. Your role is to support, sympathize,
recognize his hard work and encourage. If you want to take a further role,
help another scout and ask another parent to watch over yours.
I've learned that the role of the parent of an adolescent is to see that he
gets the right mentors. Your young man may not be actively distancing
himself yet, but you want to start now in having him associate with people
you want him to model on. The alternate paths to this is that he not
distance himself as an adolescent and not fully enter adulthood or that he
strongly reject you as too controlling and try to find his own mentors. Our
society supplies some pretty frightening (to parents) and attractive
candidates (to an eleven year old) for this.
Your question wasn't about pull-ups, and you had the right idea to see that
you needed to think about how to handle it. Good. Cement your relation with
your son by introducing him to someone else who will decide if he has
improved enough. You can then be his cheering section.
Just some thoughts from I guy who has worked with thousands of adolescents
and his own two Eagles. (And with them, was very lucky to have the support
of the whole village!)
| Berk Moss
||||/ \ Assistant Scoutmaster Troop 427
oooo\_/ Multnomah Village, Portland Oregon
/ \ Pioneer District Advancement Committee
\ | Cascade-Pacific Council
\ / O/A Brotherhood
\ / Bear Patrol Woodbadge WEM 492-1-94
--- e mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City