Re: Troubling problem
Steven G. Tyler (sgtyler@EROLS.COM)
Fri, 11 Jul 1997 17:45:13 -0400
Well, Ron, you've got a problem, all right!
First, I agree with you -- the Scout shouldn't be made to suffer for the
sins of the parent. With that said, however, someone has to bell the
cat -- and soon. One or more unit Scouters must first arrange to sit
down privately with the dad and confront him with his behaviour, and his
motivation. I'd be tempted to review the Scout Law point by point,
after making it clear that adults who participate in the program are
expected to set the example. Why would a parent want to be involved
with a program like Scouting if he repeatedly violates the program's
rules AND spirit? If he seems amenable to working on his behaviour,
fine -- but follow up!
If he fails to own the problem, or is dismissive of your concerns, then
declaring him persona non grata for all non-public Scouting events would
seem appropriate. In other words, unless the event is a public ceremony
like a Court of Honor, fine, but otherwise he needs to be stripped of
any official position and told he will not be permitted to attend other
Scouting events until he has made his peace with the program. As others
have pointed out, there are procedures to be followed and persons to be
involved, so do your homework before you are forced to drop the hammer.
Wish there was a magic solution, but I think this will only be worked
out by application of a lot of interpersonal "elbow grease." Good luck!
Steve on Cattail Creek
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City