Re: Troubling problem
Bob Gallo (rmgallo@NETGSI.COM)
Sat, 12 Jul 1997 09:35:07 -0400
I read your post to Scouts-L and my heart goes out to you. There is no
easy solution to your problem, and I don't have a magical solution. For
what it's worth, try to remember that as much as any boy may need
Scouting, the ultimate responsibility for raising a child rests with the
parent(s). Scouting was never intended to replace the parent. Although
we should do what we can to deliver the Scouting promise to each boy
that joins, no Scouting unit is required to commit organizational
suicide over a single boy or his parent. I know that sounds harsh, but
it's true. The man in question is not only ruining the Scouting
experience for his sons, but also for the other boys of your troop. If
the experience for your other boys is so soured that they quit and
others don't want to join your troop because of it, then it won't be
long before your troop fades out of existence. Who is helped by that?
It sounds like your unit has been patient and fair with this man so
far. (I assume he has not responded to counseling by your or other
leaders.) It also sounds like the interest level of the sons of this
man is questionable at best (nonexistent for the older son who quit).
Having this man around does not seem to be in the best interests of your
troop or your chartered organization. From what little I know of your
situation, it seems that the best course of action is to tell the man to
find another troop for his son.
Anyway, just my opinion. Best of luck to you!
- BOB GALLO
Harford District, Baltimore Area Council
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City