Steven Featherkile (madwolf@EARTHLINK.NET)
Tue, 3 Jun 1997 12:25:12 -0700
I need help here. I have a young man in the troop who says that he
hates scouting. He is a very bright young man. He is in scouting only
because his mother insists. He must remain a scout until he achieves
Eagle. I suspect that he secretly enjoys scouting, but uses it to
manipulate his rather maleable mom. His father is completely uninvolved
in Scouting. His mother is Committee Secretary.
His mom says that money is the only way to motivate him. On campouts,
he refuses to participate in dish/camp/tent/etc cleanups unless someone
is standing over him, and grumbles loudly about participating in
anything else. His mom says that if it were not for scouts, he would
sit in front of the computer and veg out. The parents are rather
forgiving of any excesses of temper on his part. In his defense, he is
a good teacher (for 12 years old) and was the first of his age group to
make first class.
Last night he sat for his Star Scout SM Conference and BOR. I spoke to
him about his attitude, and asked the board to speak to him about it,
too. Two members of the board (new to BSA) did not want to advance him
because of his attitude. The Adv Chair stated that his attitude had
improved 200% over what it was at his 1c BOR. I agree. He was advanced
and will receive instant recognition at the next meeting.
How do I motivate him? What do I do if he comes to a Life Scout SM
Conf. with the same attitude? How can I talk to his mom to encourage
her not to put up with his *stuff*. In spite of all the trouble he
causes, esp with the younger scouts by setting a poor example, I like
the kid. To my knowledge, he is not ADD. He is just a kid who has
figured out that he can get what he wants from his parents by exhibiting
SM T319 La Mesa, CA
"It's amazing how much ""mature wisdom"" resembles being too tired."
"Men are more sentimental than women, it blurs their thinking." ibid.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City