Drinking, Drugs and Girls, Part 2
David F. Delman (Delman01@COMPUSERVE.COM)
Fri, 16 May 1997 04:47:12 -0400
Wow Terrific, Incredible, A troop of courage and true care.
I wish you could give this same conference to many an adult leader.
SM CC JASM CE DE ASM etc.
It was business like for sure and it was great his mom was present.
As the settummanque has said document it and copy council, and your
fine unit commissioner.
As for their reactions these were all quite normal, after getting hit =
with a "two by four" for something I have been held accountable for I als=
have been at times the Incredible Hulk or Choo Choo Man. It doesn't matte=
that you were right "It hurts" and if him I would be mad at the world =
including myself. The last resource I posted Unit Commissioners Field Gui=
is pretty good on these type of meetings.
As for turning him in to authorities, thanks for the courage to say what
has to be said by a true responsible adult. I know lots of leader adults
who can't and won't muster up the courage in similiar situations.
I did notice in your recount that no men seemed to be present. The type
of man who was a sinner and is now a reformed pretending saint, for the b=
to see hope for his gender and life. He seems to need a "Mumbly Peg" kind=
of guy. I know you are quite good as a SM and a sticker which is far more=
important than gender but you are still just a Lady.
If its comfortable for you, I wouldn't wait for him to call you prior to =
20th. You put out a great hand, keep it out if you feel you can. This sho=
a two way street you are travelling on and should remain so if at all pos=
Remember if he comes back he will be looking uphill to you as adults and =
behavior he can model. No smoking, no cursing, no off color language, no =
and a uniform approach. I would also call the mom to comfort her and make=
knew you really do want HIM back on track. Right now the "two by four" sh=
should hurt more than his although she may have given up.
Let him be part of building his comeback plan and finding something in sc=
to occupy his free time. Possibly use Special Service Projects that will =
him and his patrol places his life could take him if he continued poorly.=
find that by helping others who kept up bad habits it will form some self=
and reinforce why he needs self-discipline. Lot of work, though to make t=
Being a kid I used to shimmy up the 12 foot high swings in our community =
ground and sit on the top. From this vantage point I could hit next to pe=
with my Huck Finn sling shot and make them jump.
Again I COMMEND you for a very disciplined caring approach. =
What do you and your troop have up your sleeve next? (:-))
YiS, IMHO, and may we all attempt to live the SO, SL, SM, and SS
Mr Dave (David Delman (Hawleyton, NY=
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