Need Advice on 'Special' Scout
GG Jenner (sdj@WHY.NET)
Wed, 14 May 1997 00:00:35 -0500
We have one scout in the troop who is making meetings and campouts
miserable for the other boys as well as the adults. He has refused to
follow the directions from the boy leaders as well as from the adults with
The month that his patrol was service patrol, he would try to leave as soon
as closing was done since "I have to be outside to wait on Mom". I forced
him to come back and clean up for 2 weeks and Mom understood that he had a
job to do.
In March, he was issued a troop tent for the campout which he never set up,
just put ground cloth down under sleeping bag, and complained he got cold.
He brought a mess kit along to eat with and just threw it down on the
cooking table when he finished eating breakfast (it got put into lost &
found). Come supper time he took out items from the chuck box to eat with
and when told to wash them he said he didn't know how and went pouting to
bed. Upon returning Mom was told about the problem and the troop gear (and
his) was sent home to be cleaned.
Last month he apparently didn't bring anything to eat with as he used troop
gear all weekend and the adults or boys had to wash it and put things away.
When he was asked to gather firewood he said he didn't want to and walked
away. When he was asked to straighten his half of the tent he refused till
an adult stood over him doing it. He did participate with the group in the
camporee contests and he did (with coaxing) pitch in and help prepare the
items for foil dinners for supper. The only reason he made any effort of
helping on Sunday morning was everyone was told that they didn't get to do
extra activities till all gear was loaded and the campsite was spotless.
At one meeting, I had to put a stop to his hand signaling to one of the
younger boys across the room while the SPL was talking. After closing, he
went to the SM (with Mom beside him) and accused his PL of "picking on him
and calling him names". I still think this last item was to keep me from
talking to Mom about his behavior.
After another meeting, I called the boys together that are working on Citz,
in Community to check on their progress. He started the gestures again and
I ask him if "this is the way you behave in your classes at school"? His
response was that he did what ever he wanted especially if what was going
on was not important to him. I even offered for him to call us to set up
an individual time to go over the paperwork so that he could complete the
MB before the COH and he said he would be to busy with the church youth
group every afternoon and evening to have time for scouts.
He has been a Boy Scout for about a year now (he went through Cubing with
Mom as DL), and in our troop since last September (it's more fun than the
other troop). The adults have 'hand led' him through 1st class, but at that
BOR they let him know that he must make Star on his own. His troop job is
Quartermaster, for which he has got by with doing nothing.
He does have an older brother in the other troop, so the family not knowing
what is needed for campouts is no excuse. We talked with Mom at the COH
last weekend and she agreed to try checking pack before he leaves home, and
she ask if he could work on the same MBs that his brother is so that they
can work together, otherwise she has to "sit on him to get anything done".
Any suggestions.....any helpful offers.....ANYTHING!!!
Scouting Spirit???? He hasn't showed up for a meeting in uniform shirt
this month. He did have it on for the COH but of course Mom was with him!
We have a campout on Memorial Day Weekend and leave for summer camp the
following Sunday. BTW I now carry extra strength Tylenol with me at all
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