Re: Scout, drink,drugs,women
Monte Kalisch (montek@MONTEKCS.COM)
Mon, 5 May 1997 07:46:37 -0600
Linda Closeen (ZXRA59A@PRODIGY.COM) wrote:
>was smoking, drinking, disappearing for long periods of time with the
>girls down the street and coming home drunk. He had been suspended
>from school several times. They had no control over him.
Blaine Jackson (blainej@JUNO.COM) wrote
>3. Present the boy and parent(s) with a written letter notifying
>him that he is suspended from the troop immediately. Explain that he can
>rejoin the troop only after he and his parent(s) attend a committee
>meeting and his return is approved by the committee. (This is really
>your decision, but it is very helpful to have the committee back you up.)
> Explain also that it is their responsibility to contact the CC and
>schedule their meeting with the committee.
>4. In an extreme case, explain that if he comes to any troop
>function, you will call the police to have him removed.
I was going to wait to respond on this issue, but now I have a struck
nerve. While I respect what Blaine says, I must disagree. I know it's
difficult, but those who deserve Scouting the least need it the most. Read
that statement carefully. I have seen this come true in several instances.
This Scout is crying out for *someone* anyone to acknowledge him. He needs
help, sure, but he is savable. Maybe not by you (unfortunately, you have
had enough _fun_ for one Scoutmaster!), but by Scouting. If you can't help
him, you may wish to talk to your Unit Commissioner; s/he may know of a
troop that can. It seems as if the Scout likes being in your troop or else
he would stop attending.
>life. I have a meeting tonight. I need some quick advice. I am
>going to speak with this boy. What do I say to help and not hinder.
>All of the things he is bragging about are bad for him and we do not
>want in our Troop. He is setting a bad example for all of our Scouts.
And what do your Scouts think? This is a boy-run organization? Did you
even bring this issue up at the PLC? You might be surprised by the way
they want to handle a situation like this. Often, if his peers say "Hey,
knock it off," he will.
>God only knows what he has done on our outings that I don't know
>about. Help me!!!!
Yes, but there is one other group that knows what's going on also: your
Scouts. If you present the "problem" to them, they can deal with it.
I am not saying that you need to accept this kind of attitude or
unscoutlike behavior. I am saying, though, that trying really hard to save
this Scout now might well turn around a life that needs some guidance.
Another suggestion is to sit and talk with him. Let him know how you feel
and what things concern you. Have _HIM_ make a list of (1) behaviors you
can expect of him and (2) his expectations of you. You might be surprised
by what he says. If he identifies certain behaviors he expects out of you,
he will probably identify those same things for himself.
Best of luck with this difficult issue. Get others involved. There are
people who are trained to help you with this sort of thing.
Yours in Scouting,
Monte Kalisch, email@example.com
NCS Program, Ben Delatour Scout Ranch (http://www.montekcs.com/www/bdsr)
ASM Troop 191, Ft. Collins, CO * Explorer Advisor Post 1, Ft. Collins, CO
~ I'll always be an Eagle Scout! ~
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