Re: Help motivating Eagle? Or not?
Bruce E. Cobern (bec@PIPELINE.COM)
Fri, 25 Apr 1997 14:25:31 -0400
> From: Monte Kalisch <montek@MONTEKCS.COM>
> Date: Friday, April 25, 1997 12:21 PM
> This Scout is truly a Scout. He has given much to Scouting and probably
> always will, but now other things are really getting in the way.
> band, church, friends, etc. (not that I'm blaming them. These things
> happen.) I'm in need of suggestions. There are two options, as I see
> sit down and talk with him. I feel obligated because I made a
> to him. And I meant it. (I made sure HE meant it first though!) The
> other side of me says that if his convictions change, that's life--let
> be. Not everyone was meant to be an Eagle Scout and it has to come from
Do both. Clearly the decision on whether he wants to try to earn Eagle is
his and his alone. I think we all agree that the ONLY person for whom a
Scout can earn Eagle is himself. Thus, if he has decided that this is no
longer one of his goals then we have to respect his decision. However, on
the other hand, as a friend who has promised him support in his quest, and
for your own piece of mind, I think you owe it to both of you to sit down
and discuss the situation with him. This will allow you both to satisfy
yourselves that this is truly what he wants/doesn't want. Most likely you
will walk away convinced that he has made the right decision for himself.
But, it is also possible that, after discussing it with you, he will
realize that it IS something he wants after all. Just make sure you don't
lead him to believe that it is something that YOU want him to do or he may
end up seeking it for the wrong reason.
I had a Scout in my troop who had dropped out and then returned with the
understanding that he had no desire to advance and so we should not put
any pressure on him, otherwise he wouldn't come back. He was 16 and Star,
and we agreed. Several months before he turned 17.5 I met him at a NY
Rangers game and we were chatting. I asked him when he turned 18 and what
he needed for Life. I then just commented that there was still time.
That's all I said. The next week his brother asked for a PM mb
counselor's name. I asked him whether it was for himself or his brother
and he said both. Matt had decided that it really WAS something that he
wanted to do but I'm sure that had we pushed he never would have done it.
His Eagle was one of the ones that I am most pleased at having been part
Bruce E. Cobern
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City