Re: Asbestos suites for sell
Dan and Nora Morrison (norasark@PIPELINE.COM)
Tue, 15 Apr 1997 14:52:40 -0400
At 09:22 AM 4/15/97 -0400, you wrote:
>>> Wouldn't it be nice if we didn't lose list members because some of us
>forget how to be courteous to one another... <<
>I was a little puzzled when I saw Tim's message, since I only saw one
>response on the list that disagreed with him....
What happens from time to time is a bunch of folks send messages that are
hurtful or offensive directly to the recipient. It is human nature that
people who are unhappy about something are many times more likely to voice
their opinions than those who are satisfied. This tends to skew feedback
toward the negative. I really try to encourage folks by private post, and
to very politely question or (heaven forbid) correct, publicly, so others
can support the poster I'm replying to, and tell me I'm way off course, if
need be. Otherwise, folks feel ganged up on. If what we have to say isn't
suitable for the whole group, perhaps we should keep it to ourselves.
Also the very male trait of jumping to conclusions and offering advice
without a solid basis in the facts hurts people. When there is the time lag
of email, it just doesn't work. It works for men in conversation (usually),
but nor by mail. This is one of those things that's just so. And male style
verbal over-reaching almost never satisfies a woman's communication needs.
As my mom used to say, "engage brain before putting mouth (keyboard) in gear".
And listen. It's sort of like CPR, 5 compressions, one breath, 5
compressions, one breath..... Listen, listen, listen, listen, contribute;
listen, listen, listen, listen, contribute.....
"Sometimes it is better to remain silent, and give the impression of
ignorance, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt."
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City