Leader Intensity (was Re: Is good enough really *good enough*?
Lawrence E. Faust (lfaust@ATLANTIC.NET)
Tue, 15 Apr 1997 13:36:51 -0400
>>Katie Davis writes:
>>I'm just not completely convinced I want my child associated with
>> a organization that has some of the die-hard attitudes that Scouting
> >leadership sometimes portrays.
Robert S Nix <bnix@JUNO.COM> replies
> If I may, I would like to turn your observation around and look from
> another angle. Is my minister less intense about his parishioners? Is my
> child's teacher any less intense? Is the soccer coach? Baseball coach?
> Have you ever seen the intensity of a youth team at a swim meet? Do we
> really have any idea the level of intensity and pressure our children
> feel when the drug dealer comes around? Or when a best friend tries drugs
> / alcohol and tries to get a friend to "try it"? Or when a friend repels
> down a thirty foot tower and says "try it"? Where do we want our son?
> What sort of people do you want around your child? What sort of adult
> role models? Whomever you choose, your child will probably pick someone
> else. Perhaps putting your child in the midst of a group of adults and
> older youth which have wildly diverse views but share common (ethical,
> community focused, honest, helpful, teamwork) values is not such a bad
Couldn't have said it better my own self, Bob. My experiences as a
Leader parallels yours. I too am insecure that I haven't done enough for the
boys or have been a bad example or have let them down somehow (let me tell
you about my Pinewood Derby debacle sometime). Then the sight of my
happy-with-Scouting Tiger Cub son slaps me cross the head, and tell me that
I have nothing to worry about.
Katie, there are all types of Scout leaders, just as there are all
boys. Some are more "intense" than others. Scouting, contrary to popular
belief, ain't about wearing uniforms, doing military-type drills, memorizing
things, or anything intense like that. It IS about the building up of a
boy's character and self-esteem.
Don't deprive your boys of the Scouting experience just because you
that a particular leader is too "intense". Go to another troop or pack.
IMHO, society at large, particularly the pressure our youth face, is
properly termed "intense" (next to this, a Scout Leader who insists that
requirements be met to his/her satisfaction ain't nothing). Bob is 150% on
point with this one: who DO you want to build the character of your boys,
Scouting or the pressure of their peers?
Scouting is a way of life (no..I'm not intense, I just believe
Cub Scout Pack 303
Gulf Ridge Council
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