Variety of Topics
Deirdre LaRock (butterbuns@EARTHLINK.COM)
Sat, 16 Nov 1996 10:07:43 -0500
Re: Pack Problems,
I believe you need to do something. Wait and seeing didn't work this month.
Do you think it will work next month? I wouldn't count on it. Drastic as
it may seem a new pack would probably be the best solution for you and your
den. If the CM sees no reason to make restitution to the school for damages
done, your den should be an example. Your CM unfortunately made you the
contact person between the pack and the school. Even if she is ultimately
responsible for the actions, you and the school will both feel better if you
do something. See if there is a service project that your boys could do for
the school. Something as small as restocking library shelves, or helping
empty all the wastebaskets. Or, helping to decorate for the holidays.
Cleaning up the school grounds on a weekend, is also a good idea.
(Personally, I'd get a bill from the school, and figure out how much the
damage would be per boy, and then double that amount for any boy who's
parent wasn't present. I wouldn't let parents off whose boys didn't attend
either. From what you've said this is an ongoing problem. I would then
take the excess and repair things at the church, or do something for the
church which is probably in worse shape than the school. And, mail each
boy's parents the bill, explain why there is a bill, and who to remit funds
to. But, I've been told I go a bit overboard so that's probably not a good
Re: Leaders Who Don't Need Training
If they've been to all the training and see no need to go again...why not
suggest they be on staff at the next function. It's a rather sneaky way to
do it, but if it works... People on staff learn as much as the people
attending. I was on staff last weekend for the first time at Powwow. I
learned a LOT! I had been to a previous powwow, but this time I taught
crafts. (You all probably remember how desperate I was for ideas!) I
learned a lot. I only had to teach in two sessions. I had four sessions
free to take classes from others. It was a LOT of fun, and I found the
knots & things session very useful. I should be able to handle those bear
knots in the back now. I still need some practice though.
Re: Boy possibly Leaving Scouts
I'd bet he's thinking about quitting. Don't think I could pinpoint the
reasons why I think it. But, you probably think it too, otherwise you
wouldn't have posted. Now comes the question, how much do you want him to
stay. And, what are you willing to do to keep him. Obviously, we don't
want any boy to leave scouts. We'd like to keep them all, and make each
boy's life better. But, we do have to draw the line somewhere. We can't
let one bad scout drive away all the good ones (or mediocre ones either.)
If you think that he will make a good scout given another opportunity, go
for it. Maybe, you could find a project he would like to participate in.
He's already skipped camping. Maybe, you could invite him to help plan
something, a service project for Christmas, or something. Don't bend over
backwards to keep him, he is after all the one who got in trouble, not you.
And, another thing to consider...who said he wasn't ADD? Did his parents
tell you? Could it be that they don't want to admit it? ADD is an awful
stigma, and many parents refuse to believe that their children could be like
all those other *bad* kids. Personally, I believe there are a LOT more kids
who are ADD now that we have Ritalin then before we had Ritalin. ADD is a
diagnosis that is reached after eliminating other possibilities. There is
no clear cut test, taking of a blood sample or anything else that can give
you a definite result. Which is possibly why there is so much controversy
on the subject. I wish you the best of luck with this, you're going to need it.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City