JASON CRUSE (jcruse@DU.EDU)
Fri, 15 Nov 1996 20:45:07 -0700
I'm back with another question about my one scout who is/was disruptive.
To put to rest what many of you suggested, he is *NOT* ADD, or anything
related to it. He IS the youngest, by several years, in his family.
This is probably part of the problem.
After listening to the many suggestions I received (for which I thank
you all), and consulting with my assistants and the troop committee
chairperson, I had a chat with the boy. (Recall: this is the boy who
doesn't want to participate in anything, and who wanders around during
meetings, is generally disruptive, etc.) The agreed upon discussion
(from those with my troop) was to discuss with the boy the meaning of
scout spirit, and whether or not his behavior was really demonstrating
scout spirit. I honestly didn't think it would do much good, talking
about spirit and advancement--he is 12 1/2, and is almost ready for his
second class (complete lack of interest in advancement, mixed with total
inattention to this point).
Well, at first I thought it produced the desired affect. The meeting
after our conference, he was a different boy entirely. Then, he skipped
a campout (which he never does), and has shown no interest in any other
of our meetings. He has an opportunity to finish his second class this
weekend, and receive it in 10 days (with my blessing on scout spirit) by
going swimming with the rest of the boys. He refuses to attend. Claims
disinterest. With the campout, he said it wouldn't be fun.
Its only been three weeks since our talk, and may be too soon too
worry. But I am beginning to get concerned that the discussion sent him
in the other direction. He hasn't quit the troop, and still comes to
troop meetings. Am I worrying too soon?
Too allay fears, I had a normal scoutmaster conference--he and I on the
steps leading to the stage in our church, with one of my assistants
standing across the corridor. Close enough to see and hear, but far
enough to be away from the discussion. The committee chair was also
close by, not hovering, but happened to be there (it really was an
accident). Nothing "untoward" or threatening was said in the
conference, in their opinion.
ps: since this has somewhat already been around the list once, private
responses and dialogue are encouraged.
-- Jason A. Cruse
University of Denver
"Toujours en avant. Si Dieu avait voulu que l'homme reculat, il lui
aurait mis un oeil derriere la tete."
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