Re: Lighter Side of Lighter Fluid
John Pannell (PANNELLJ@DELPHI.COM)
Tue, 12 Nov 1996 15:31:31 -0500
>What do I do now? I am thinking of writing an apology to the father.
>I wrote the letter to the most flagrant violater's parents first and
>copied most of it to the parents of the other boys.
I read the letter. I saw nothing in it that you need to apologize for.
Personally, if I were to write that letter, I would not apologize for it.
I would try to get the UC involved again in Scouting, get him to reverse his
decision. As a UC he likely serves other units besides yours and he may
well be a loss to them.
>From what little I know, there seems to be a personality conflict between
the SM and UC. Perhaps his ADC or DC can retain him in Scouting as a UC to
a unit other than yours. Conceivably this is the best solution here.
However, nothing in the letter, IMO, should invoke such an emotional
response - his leaving Scouting because of the "tone" of the letter. The
issue of the kid being hyperactive or potentially AD(H)D is irrelevant. His
conduct was unacceptable regardless. I have not seen, before, a troop
requiring the *parent* to appear before the troop committee, but since
the goal implied is to impress upon the parents what is appropriate
behavior for their son and to enlist their support in this endeavor such
an appearance seems not unreasonable. The problem seems to lie with the UC
dealing with the SM disciplining the kid - and the parents by requiring
attendance at their son's activities and appearance before the committee.
If the UC is insistent upon leaving Scouting over the disciplining of his
son, perhaps it is best to wish him good luck in his future endeavors and
let him go.
This whole affair is yet another reason that it is standard practice for a
UC to NOT serve a unit his child is in.
John Pannell, Unit Commissioner
Three Fires Council, IL
I used to be a buffalo (SR-92) but will always be an Eagle (1981)
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City