Re: Progress report and request for advice
Stephen M. Hoar (shoar@INFINET.COM)
Mon, 4 Nov 1996 12:25:18 -0500
At 10:05 AM 11/4/96 EST, you wrote:
>> Refuse to answer to "Dad" at scouting events.
>I don't agree with this. I have always been, am now, and will always be
>my son's dad. It will be that way regardless of circumstance. Through
>their (I have 2) entire lives, when they called for dad, I answered (and
>still answer). I am not going to change that for Scouting or anything
>else, nor would I ever suggest it to anyone else.
>What we do teaches. As Scout leaders, our actions teach all the boys in
>the troop as well as our own. We should never teach that there is any bond
>or relationship on this earth that is stronger than family. It may very
>well be that kind of committment that some boy in your troop is looking
>for in a role model.
I agree with you completely. On more than one occasion it has
happened that a scout other than my son would call be dad by accident.
I always took it as a high compliment that this young man felt at ease
enough with me to use the term. In my troop I treat them all as if
they were all my son(s). Rather than keep them at arm's length, I
keep them all in my heart. I demand no more of them than I would
my own son and I ask a lot of my son. How do the parents feel about
this? More than once they have expressed to me their appreciation
that I treat them this way. Want to call me dad? You Bet!
Steve in Newark
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City