JASON CRUSE (jcruse@DU.EDU)
Thu, 12 Sep 1996 13:51:38 -0600
I will have a problem in about three weeks as one of my boys moves
(excuse me for a moment, LDS scouting situation) from the 11 year-old
patrol to the 12/13 year-old patrol.
That was background. As SM, and in an LDS troop, I don't have a
tremendous amount of contact with boys in the 11 year-old (new scout)
patrol, but I do have some. There is a boy in that patrol who is moving
on this month who is a concern to me and the assistants.
The boy is currently PL of the new scout patrol. At first I thought he
had some attention difficulties, but that does not appear to be the case
(especially after reviewing his health history). The problem is lack of
attention in meetings to the point of rudeness. Last evening's meeting
brings up an example. We are preparing to do a JLT campout this weekend.
In the middle of the review by the SPL of our trip, the boy simply got
up, gave the SPL a disgusted look, and wandered out of the room. No one
had said anything to him. Later, when we had about 15 minutes left in
our meeting, he began audibly complaining about the length of meetings
and asked when we would be done.
My SPL is...concerned. I know that the two boys do not get along, and
have to this point had little contact. However, when they are both part
of the same group, in church and in scouts, there may be some problems.
This much I can handle without difficulty.
My concern is about blatant disrespect for the other adult leaders, which
is a recurring problem as well. I have some suspicions that this may
come a little from home, because his mother does not like any of the
assistants, or myself, for that matter. I believe, to some respect, that
he only comes because "it is part of the church program" and is being
amde to come. I hate that.
Anyway, I haven't explained this very well, but I think the frustration
of our leaders has been expressed. I know of one way I could handle it,
personally, in a scoutmaster conference, since I think this is lacking in
scout spirit. However, a move that drastic would only further antagonize
his mom, as well.
Anyone have any suggestions or thoughts?
Unless you *want* to make this a public discussion (I don't particularly
want to), feel free to respond to me privately.
-- Jason A. Cruse
University of Denver
"Toujours en avant. Si Dieu avait voulu que l'homme reculat, il lui
aurait mis un oeil derriere la tete."
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