Re: Sticky Fingers
Mary E. Anderson (marya@SMARTNET.NET)
Tue, 23 Jul 1996 23:12:06 -0500
Pari Ann wrote:
> Last year in my Wolf Den I had one boy that would steal
> things out of my house everytime that we had a meeting.
> YIS Annie
I watch the responses you got on this and almost didn't reply, but I am
bothered by approaching this problem by treating the end result instead
of the cause. Like by monitors or moving your meeting. Why is this boy
stealing? Kids know that stealing is wrong, less obvious to them is that
people (even other kids) don't like thieves. It is always tragic when
children craving attention start on that awful treadmill where negative
behavior get attention, even if its bad attention, so they commit even
more outrageous behavior. If, as I assume from your post, you cannot
approach the parents in helping this boy, I would encourage you see if
there is anyone in the boy sphere that you could talk to (i.e. school
councilor, minister, neighbors, etc.), that can give you some insight
into what is motivating this boy.
Finally, I don't think that stealing can be tolerated. Your den needs to
be able to trust each other. Existing in a situation where I know that
unless I'm very careful and watchful, I (or one of the boys) will lose
something, is not scouting's 'Safe Haven', and is unfair to you and the
other boys. We certainly need to teach our kids not to be careless with
their things, and thereby tempt someone into taking them, but they
shouldn't have to put up with a thief. I'm sure I wouldn't want the boys
to learn to tolerate a thief. I think there is already to much sentiment
that feels that the honest man is a fool.
Of course this IMHO.
CM Pack 3051
Heart of America Council-Pelathe District: Lawrence, KS
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City