Re: MOM and SON, DAD and LAD
Peter Farnham (pfarnham@CAPACCESS.ORG)
Sat, 20 Jul 1996 09:16:09 -0400
I can see good arguments on both sides of this question; nevertheless, I
come down with Marie on this one. I think there is much merit in the
argument that boys have different relationships with their moms than they
do with their dads, and there is not a thing wrong with designing a
weekend specifically to develop and cement that special relationship
between a mom and son on the one hand, and a dad and lad on the other.
By going to a generic parent/son weekend you once again descend to the
lowest common denominator; while these events are no doubt fun, there
would definitely be a different tone, and possibly different activities,
going on at weekends targeted to developing a relationship with one parent.
As for making momless or dadless boys feel bad, I guess that's a
consideration. But it is my experience that boys are far more resilient
than we sometimes give them credit for, and I frankly think this concern
is exaggerated. This is also the reason you hold a couple of weekends
each year for both mom and son, and dad and lad--so that all boys get the
chance to participate.
Marie's point that "there are always exceptions to the rule" also applies
here, too--were I running one of these weekends, we'd always make
allowances for special circumstances.
In any case, the dad and lad I went on with my son a couple of years ago
was a lot of fun, and as I said in an earlier post, regardless of what
you call it, those of you in cubs who haven't been on such a weekend
ought to try it, and talk it up among your friends and colleagues.
And Marie--it sounds like a great program, at least to me!
SM, Troop 113
GW District, NCAC
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