Re: MOM and SON, DAD and LAD
Vicki L. DeVico (vicki@INJERSEY.COM)
Sat, 20 Jul 1996 18:18:40 -0400
At 12:38 PM 7/20/96 +0000, you wrote:
>There are many events and activities that your son has and will come
>in contact with during his growing up years. There will be
>somethings he wants to participate in, but can't.
>Hockey Club in our area is extremely expensive. It costs around
>$400.00 a year to be involved. There are many families that cannot
>afford to pay that price. Is that discriminating?
>Little League and Babe Ruth offer baseball opportunities for many
>young men. However, there are more boys then fields and coaches
>available, so as a result, some boys don't make the team. Is that
>To be involved in any of the extra-curricular activities at the area
>public high schools where I live, all students must have a minimum
>GPA. If you don't meet the minimum GPA, you don't participate.
>These activities include both sports and academic clubs and teams.
>Is this discriminating?
Marie....I don't think we should compare our program to the ones you
mention. Boy Scouting and Cub Scouting is supposed to be available to all
who wish to participate...by putting the restrictions you do on an event, a
boy who might choose to participate might not be able to. He can't change
his parental status like he can his GPA or his sports ability. He can't
earn a parent like he can money to join a hockey club. The limits you
impose are beyond his (and sometimes his family's) ability to overcome.
Please don't misunderstand...at one time, I would have loved an event like
you describe when my sons were in Cubbing. I have been the subject of
discrimination in scouting like many women. Because of the bias I have
encountered, and overcome, I am very sensitive to gender-limiting events and
staunchly opposed to them.
Yesterday I was speaking with one of the female Scouters from my husband's
troop. I found out that their Unit Commissioner (who happens to be the
mother of one of their Asst. SM's) told her that it wasn't good for her to
camp with the troop and that she shouldn't do it. I was outraged...I was
invited by the retiring Scoutmaster to camp with them anytime I was
available. I'm sure this other scouter was told the same thing---but
because of what she was told, in private by the UC, she has backed off from
participating in troop activities. Because of this one comment, a very
active, interested and enthusiastic parent has a negative feeling about her
involvement in the program and has become very hesitant to offer her help.
(BTW, my husband is the new SM in that troop starting in Sept, and he will
tactfully bring her back--Yes, I interferred!)
I feel that any limits to parental involvment--even at a Mom & Me or Dad &
Lad event--can have the same result and should be avoided at all costs.
Vicki DeVico <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Monmouth Council, NJ: Twin Lights Dist. Memb. Chair, Troop 142 Cmte. Member,
Council Training Cmte. Member.....and a good ole Eagle, too (NE3-119) & as
of 6-1-96--Ordeal Member of the OA--Na Tsi Hi Lodge 71 :-)
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City