Re: MOM and SON, DAD and LAD
Rodger Morris (rodger@FISHNET.NET)
Thu, 18 Jul 1996 07:58:40 -0700
At 10:46 PM 7/17/96 +0000, Marie E. Lackore wrote:
>MOM and SON is an event near and dear to my heart, so I feel that I
>must put in my two cents worth regarding the name of this event.
>MOM and SON is not the same as Parent and Son, nor should it ever be.
> The MOM and SON relationship is a very special relationship, and the
>focus of our entire weekend is on the MOM and SON. Not a detail goes
>into the planning of the event without thinking how it will relate to
>the MOM and SON relationship. We are going into our tenth year and
>what we are doing must be working for we have MOMs and SONs that come
>back year after year after year.
Commendable. And what do you do for those children who don't have mothers
or whose mothers cannot participate because of reasons beyond their control?
My mother is paranoid schizophrenic. Fortunately, she now has effective
treatment and one would never know that she is schizophrenic. Until 2 1/2
years ago, she was a raving maniac. How would you handle this? It appears
that your answer is that in your council, I would be barred from your
"MOM and SON" event if I were a Cub Scout there, as my mother was
incarcerated in a state mental institution.
How say you?
My sister Patricia was struck and killed by a speeding car on April 24th.
She left behind an orphan daughter. Let us stipulate for a moment that
my niece is actually my nephew. By your stated logic in your previous
postings, my nephew would also be barred from your "MOM and SON" event
because he is an orphan.
How say you?
A friend of mine who mentored me when I first became an Assistant
Scoutmaster in 1971 is currently rearing two of his grandsons. The
father is in a halfway house in drug rehabilitation. The mother is in
another state. By your statements, these two boys are prohibited from
participating in your "MOM and SON".
How say you?
You also said:
> Also, we can provide an event for those boys who don't have MOMs to
> attend the MOM and SON event with them.
Your wording clearly says that your council currently does not "provide
an event for those boys who don't have MOMs". Is this true? If it is,
then you blatently discriminate against Cub Scouts without mothers. If
it is not, then you are practicing "separate but equal" Cub Scouting.
I applaud your intent. However, your focus is not upon the children we
serve in Cub Scouting, but rather upon the mothers of those children.
Were it otherwise, you would structure your event so as to be open to
all of the Cub Scouts in your council. As it stands, you arbitarily
bar from participation the less fortunate Cub Scouts in your council
and speak in casually passing of another event that will be open to
them if you ever get around to implementing it.
It is obvious that you feel strongly about the "MOM and SON" event in
your council. The supporters of "separate but equal" schooling in the
Jim Crow south felt equally strongly about the benefits of segregated
I personally like neither segregated schooling nor segregated Scouting.
IMHO, the focus of your event needs to be upon the child rather than
upon the mother.
As always, your mileage may vary.
Yours in Scouting,
Rodger Morris <email@example.com>
Scoutmaster, Troop 852 Woodbadge 416-18
Ventura County Council Philmont, 1973
Camarillo, California, USA "I used to be a Beaver..."
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