Re: Kids with Disabilites
FWD LARDIE, WILLIAM LTC (logplanner@FWD.AREUR.ARMY.MIL)
Thu, 11 Jul 1996 07:54:16 +0200
Yours in Scouting,
WB (WAKO) Owl, NE-VI-19
O/A Vigil 1994
>From: Hal Dudley[SMTP:wolfcsm@N-LINK.COM]
>Sent: Wednesday, July 10, 1996 8:14 PM
>To: Multiple recipients of list SCOUTS-L
>Great insight into how to overcome the "meanness" in kids. Wish him
>becoming an EAGLE.
>There are a lot of kids who could be elped through the Scouting
>takes parents and leaders who are willing to help. Great job!
>From an old Command Sergeant Major
>I used to be an Eagle
>At 07:37 PM 7/10/96 +0200, you wrote:
>>I can empathize with you. I to have a son who is very enthusiastic
>>about scouts. His goal was to follow his older brother's footprints and
>>become an Eagle Scout someday. In fact, he would wear his uniform to
>>school because he believed in the program. He has both a physical as
>>well as a learning disability that has caused him to be very sensitive
>>to what other kids say. Kids can be very mean to other kids. In fact
>>his first day in a new school met with disaster because of his
>>neurological disorder, Responsive Distonia, lack of muscular control.
>>When he first joined a troop, some of the other boys were in the same
>>grade at school. They made fun of him. He had very few friends in the
>>troop, even though his older brother was an Eagle Scout in the Troop.
>>There were several instances where the SM would have me take him away so
>>he, the SM could talk to the other boys about one of the points of the
>>Scout Law..." a Scout is KIND".
>>My sons scout spirit was truly evident, this is not coming from a
>>father, but from other Scouters throughout the District and Council who
>>watched him at different events to include summer camp.
>>As a parent and Scouter, we would attend every event that we could. I
>>would even take the troop to summer camp. One reason was to ensure that
>>he took his medication, and also, because of his learning disabilities,
>>to assist him, along with other scouts who asked with merit badge
>>sessions. When he ended up in a wheel chair for a several years, that
>>did not stop him from going camping. There were plenty of kids who
>>would volunteer to push him around to the different events.
>>My son did end up quitting that troop because of the harassment from a
>>few of the boys, but not until he was elected into the Order of the
>>Arrow is first year of eligibility.
>>The older scouts in our Lodge have taken my son under their care. They
>>worked with him so he was able to seal his membership in the Lodge by
>>going through the requirements for Brotherhood. He also told the Lodge
>>Chief that he wanted to have the same position that his brother had,
>>heading up the youth Cook Team.
>>He transferred to a small troop where his best friend was a member.
>>That helped. He also attended Golden Falcon, our Councils week long
>>"youth Woodbadge" course two times. There, his patrol members took
>>turns in helping him i.e. carrying his backpack because they know he did
>>not have the endurance to carry it several miles or letting him take a
>>nap in the afternoon because the medication he is on "knocked" him out
>>for several hours. Last year he was asked to become a member of the
>>course staff, where he served in a position he was capable of doing.
>>The Council Camp Director also asked to join his summer camp staff.
>>The older scouts who know him know that he can not do everything that
>>they do. They make allowances for him, but they also accept his for the
>>person he is. Scouting has been his only real motivation in the past 8
>>His goals in scouting are almost reality. He is currently waiting for
>>his father to come home from being deployed so he can have his Eagle
>>Court of Honor. After that, he only has one other goal in Scouting.
>>If my son can do it, so can yours. I think that one of the reasons my
>>son made it, was because he had parents who also believed in the
>>program. Vacation time for the past 8 years is basically attending
>>scout camp and camporees along with other scouting activities. I have
>>just as much fun as the kids do!!! If the parents are involved in the
>>program, then in most likely hood, the scout will complete the Trail to
>>Eagle. I know!
>>Best of luck!
>>Yours in Scouting,
>>WB (WAKO) Owl, NE-VI-19
>>O/A Vigil 1994
>>>From: Jo Anne Murphy[SMTP:murphyj@CCMAIL.ORST.EDU]
>>>Sent: Wednesday, July 10, 1996 7:37 PM
>>>To: Multiple recipients of list SCOUTS-L
>>> I have a problem for those of you out there in Scout-L land who have
>>> developmentally disabled kid in your Scout troop...I know the answer
>>> probably right in from of my nose, but I can't see things too
>>> right now because I am so ticked off.
>>> My son has been in a Boy Scout troop for just over a year now. He
>>> Asperger's syndrome, a high functioning form of Autism. Kids with
>>> asperger's have trouble with social skills, like making friends, and
>>> have somewhat limited vocabularies, which makes speaking difficult.
>>> Up until last month, he has been very enthusiastic about scouts. It
>>> been the most positive experience he has had. He told me at last
>>> month's troop Court of Honor (where he received his First Class rank
>>> badge), that he didn't want to be in scouts anymore.
>>> I was stunned.
>>> He said some of the kids in the troop have been calling him names
>>> teasing him (calling him "_hit-for brains", and telling him where to
>>> "stick" things - not exactly light teasing). When he asks them to
>>> they just pile it on more (according to him). He recently returned
>>> Summer camp and one of the ASMs who was there told my husband he
>>> the kids teasing him. Now I can't get my son to go to troop
>>> Up until now, he has been very proud of being in scouts. He's gone
>>> just about every trip or event with the troop, he is eager to earn
>>> badges and participate in service projects (his goal is to make
>>> rank). He has been a Den Chief since September.
>>> Do I talk to the Scoutmaster? Do I talk to the parents? Both? Is
>>> there anyone on the list that has run into this kind of problem that
>>> could tell me what is most effective? I would sure hate to see my
>>> bag everything because of what a few jerks are doing (yes, there
>>> always be some jerky kids in every troop).
>>> Thanks in advance,
>>> Jo Anne Murphy
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