Re: your mail
Tim Goncharoff (tgonchar@CATS.UCSC.EDU)
Wed, 10 Jul 1996 10:38:14 -0700
Please, do talk to the Scoutmaster as soon as possible. I'm sure he
would be appalled. Many kids seem to have a cruel streak, especially
with someone who seems to be different. We work with our boys all the
time on this issue. Leadership needs to come from the Scoutmaster, but
consistent messages should be coming from the Senior Patrol Leader, the
Patrol Leader, and indeed from every boy in the troop that when we
promise to be "friendly" and "kind" that we mean it.
My heart goes out to you and your son. Good luck! On Wed, 10 Jul
1996, Jo Anne Murphy wrote:
> I have a problem for those of you out there in Scout-L land who have a
> developmentally disabled kid in your Scout troop...I know the answer is
> probably right in from of my nose, but I can't see things too clearly
> right now because I am so ticked off.
> My son has been in a Boy Scout troop for just over a year now. He has
> Asperger's syndrome, a high functioning form of Autism. Kids with
> asperger's have trouble with social skills, like making friends, and
> have somewhat limited vocabularies, which makes speaking difficult.
> Up until last month, he has been very enthusiastic about scouts. It has
> been the most positive experience he has had. He told me at last
> month's troop Court of Honor (where he received his First Class rank
> badge), that he didn't want to be in scouts anymore.
> I was stunned.
> He said some of the kids in the troop have been calling him names and
> teasing him (calling him "_hit-for brains", and telling him where to
> "stick" things - not exactly light teasing). When he asks them to stop,
> they just pile it on more (according to him). He recently returned from
> Summer camp and one of the ASMs who was there told my husband he caught
> the kids teasing him. Now I can't get my son to go to troop meetings.
> Up until now, he has been very proud of being in scouts. He's gone on
> just about every trip or event with the troop, he is eager to earn merit
> badges and participate in service projects (his goal is to make Eagle
> rank). He has been a Den Chief since September.
> Do I talk to the Scoutmaster? Do I talk to the parents? Both? Is
> there anyone on the list that has run into this kind of problem that
> could tell me what is most effective? I would sure hate to see my son
> bag everything because of what a few jerks are doing (yes, there will
> always be some jerky kids in every troop).
> Thanks in advance,
> Jo Anne Murphy
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City