Re: Mauled By a Grizzly...was Re: Abusive parents
Frederick Weber (troop4@MIDWEST.NET)
Sat, 6 Jul 1996 08:28:45 -0500
>At 07:11 AM 7/4/96 GMT, Rod Keen wrote:
>>I really didn't need that. anyway I just thought that I'd get it off my
>The larger question is how to deal with abusive fathers, the kind of
>people my scouts always referred to as "grizzly bears". My account of
>an encounter with one I called, "Mauled By a Grizzly." I'm including
>it here. It illustrates my personal policy for dealing with difficult
>people. At my size, I'm a bit of a bear myself, but prefer to be thought
>of as a buffalo. ;)
> Mauled by a Grizzly
>Grizzly, uh, I mean my Scouting brother came unglued. In front of the
>whole dining hall, he called me out for a brawl. He was going to
>teach me a lesson for not controlling my boys better. I first replied
>to him that I wasn't coming, not just yet. I gathered my Scouts
>around and obtained the necessary confessions. I was prepared to
>apologize on their behalf but would never get the chance.
>When I walked out the door of the dining hall, the entire camp had
>formed a circle around where I would be standing, a boxing ring
>of sorts. There in the center stood the grizzly bear. I stepped
>into the ring and firmly set my feet. Dropping my hands to my side,
>open and not in a fist, I waited patiently while my opponent stomped
>around the ring. He shouted, threatened, advanced as if ready to
>throw a punch, then finally in exasperation stormed through the
>spectators and disappeared up a trail.
>Now I ask you, who won the fight that day?
wow....why is that "grizzly" still in Scouts? his behavior defn was not
I am involved in many youth activities, scouts, baseball and basketball.
From experience the best way to deal with an abusive parent is ti be firm
and assertive, not argumentative, and tell them that that behavior will not
be tolerated, or the parent will be asked not to be there.. that behavior is
destructive to the boy and the organization..whatever it may be...remember
scouting is for boys, lead by boys, with adult supervision. Sometimes its so
bad at baseball i wish parents were not allowed to attend. I think we had
more fun as kids playing sandlot ball than todays organized ball with all
the parents there...
Just my opinion for what its worth...
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City