Re: Mom's at camp -outs
Paul H. Brown (phbrown@CAPACCESS.ORG)
Mon, 10 Jun 1996 07:43:08 -0400
> In theory, boys should ease into the camping experience as a Webelos
> with the comfort of mom or dad. Later, as a Boy Scout, they should
> bond with their patrol. A boy may prefer to sleep with his patrol like the
> rest of the Scouts but a mom or dad may insist on him bunking with
> them. A Troop "rule" may protect the Scout from this embarrassment.
> Also, there is less chance for the Scout to learn to think for himself if
> a parent is there to watch over every step and make sure his night is
> comfortable. If a boy forgets something on a campout then he'll
> learn either it wasn't necessary in the first place or he'll learn not to
> forget it again.
> One of the hardest parts of parenting for most of us is to let our
> children have enough independence to learn for themselves, to learn
> from their own MISTAKES. Boy Scouts are at that critical stage of a
> young man's life where they need opportunities to grow without mom
> or dad keeping them safe and protecting them from all harm and
> disappointment. Too many parents of new Scouts want to jump right
> in and help the Scouts pitch their tents and cook their meals. They're
> just being helpful. After all, we were all taught to not just stand around
> when there's work to be done. But we must resist the urge to jump in
> uninvited by the youth else we hurt their self-confidence by always
> doing for them. Besides, most people learn best by doing then by
Just after I was appointed SA, our troop had its most recent Eagle. A
shy boy, and his father came along on ALL overnighters. They tented
together and ate together. If the food wasn't appetizing, they'd make a
run to the closest McDonalds together.
For merit badges, his parents thought they'd be involved, too. Rather
than getting on the troop's merit badge list, and counseling other
scouts, they registered on the District's list for about a dozen badges,
but limited their availability to boys in our troop. The net result, of
course, was that they weren't "bothered" by counseling boys other than
Couldn't convince the parents that they had to do some letting go so
their son could grow up. Looking back, I don't think they wanted him to
grow: I suppose the youngest is always the "baby" in someone's eyes.
Didn't hold a CoH. Shortly after the Eagle paperwork came back, the
family moved out without telling anyone goodbye. Mom had been troop
treasurer: the financial records were found on the SM's doorstep one morning.
IMO, they should've just purchased the badge at the Scout Shop.
Paul H. Brown, UC, GW District, National Capital Area Council, BSA
I wuz an Antelope (82-66). Now working my ticket.
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