Re: Mom's at camp -outs
Murphy Peter (MurphyP@RND3.INDY.TCE.COM)
Sun, 9 Jun 1996 14:46:00 PDT
>this comment made about scouts "distancing" themselves from their mom and
>dads. Once in a conversation about camping I had a Scoutmaster once tell me
>that his rule was that no parents and children sleep together in tents at
>all because of this very thing.
In theory, boys should ease into the camping experience as a Webelos
with the comfort of mom or dad. Later, as a Boy Scout, they should
bond with their patrol. A boy may prefer to sleep with his patrol like the
rest of the Scouts but a mom or dad may insist on him bunking with
them. A Troop "rule" may protect the Scout from this embarrassment.
Also, there is less chance for the Scout to learn to think for himself if
a parent is there to watch over every step and make sure his night is
comfortable. If a boy forgets something on a campout then he'll
learn either it wasn't necessary in the first place or he'll learn not to
forget it again.
One of the hardest parts of parenting for most of us is to let our
children have enough independence to learn for themselves, to learn
from their own MISTAKES. Boy Scouts are at that critical stage of a
young man's life where they need opportunities to grow without mom
or dad keeping them safe and protecting them from all harm and
disappointment. Too many parents of new Scouts want to jump right
in and help the Scouts pitch their tents and cook their meals. They're
just being helpful. After all, we were all taught to not just stand around
when there's work to be done. But we must resist the urge to jump in
uninvited by the youth else we hurt their self-confidence by always
doing for them. Besides, most people learn best by doing then by
As a Scoutmaster, I welcome parents along on all outings. Heavens
knows I don't have the expertise in all Scout skills. But I must learn
to direct the energy of the parents so they do not unintentionally hinder
their own child's development.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City