Re: Switching members between dens
Sat, 6 Apr 1996 14:52:32 PST
Switching den needs cubmaster approval. I would not really consider
witholding my approval, but I would want to be involved when this happens in my
pack. There are at least two reasons to involve the cubmaster:
Finding the right balance between dens sometimes is quite difficult. There
might be some reasons why a split is done the way it is and the people involved
might not know them. I am not proposing to dictate, but if people know more
they might make better decisions. For example some parents have asked me to
put two boys together; I wouldn't like somebody else separating them
If people have to ask the cubmaster, they will make a better case. It will
less likely be a spur of the moment decision. (And they can share the blame
with the cubmaster if necessary)
>My son will feel slighted
Don't make your son feel slighted. If you want your son in your den, thats
fine. If you want your son in another den, thats fine too. But don't jerk him
around to make space.
>My experience with my sons indicates that friendships at second grade are
still pretty fickle
My experience is that it is unpredictable. Some friendships last, some don't.
Lets take the boys serious, at least unless it is obviously not so.
I can find several reasons to make moving between dens beneficial, but I don't
think any of my reasons is of much help to you. As you say "personalities
involved might make this thorny". It also makes each case a special case.
>I am "full" in that I feel 7 boys at my small home is plenty
7 boys is just the ideal size. I feel with you. I would however urge a den
leader to accept more boys if the boys recruit their friends. But switching
den is very different from recruiting. I really feel like I can't say anything
of substance without being in your shoes.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City