Charlie Thorpe (charlie2@RO.COM)
Mon, 11 Mar 1996 17:15:53 -0600
Hello Robert -
A while back you said:
>There is no way I can adequately state in an email message my vehement
>disapproval of "sharing Eagle courts of honor". It should be a
>completely individual thing.
I completely agree with your second sentence...NOT your first <g>. I have
had the "hardship" (ain't it nice!) of helping a flock of Eagles set up
their COH's over the years. We always try to do things EXACTLY as the new
Eagle wants... ahhh, weeelll, at least ALMOST exactly...<g>
We have discovered that every now and then the kids will charge off and
make plans that leaves their family and friends behind! Sometimes grandpa
and grandma need time to come a long way or big brother/sister needs a
chance to get leave from the military. Occasionally outside friends and
well-wishers (church, company, community organizations, etc.) need to
coordinate busy schedules.
I kinda feel that part of our "growth" environment that we try to set up
for our Scouts includes a chance to come to understand the importance of
including family, friends, and well-wishers in the important events of our
life. In short, sometimes we have to nudge the new Eagles into making
their COH a slightly "bigger deal" than they might have wanted at first
Relating to multiple Eagle COH's, this means that we always want the kid to
consider ALL of his options. We might have to help him understand the wide
range of facilities/themes/times/dates/etc. that are available to help him
celebrate this important milestone in his life. Part of this education
might be helping him choose whether he wants to share his COH with anyone
New-Eagle best bud's who want to share the spotlight might wind up choosing
to go with individual COH's when the scheduling complexity for multiple
sets of family, friends, and other VIP's starts to really get out of hand.
Perhaps the individuals might decide to choose different themes for their
COH when they see what is available. Maybe one might want to do an outside
COH and another might want air conditioning, cloth tablecloths, and fancy
nut bowls <g>.
We have also gone the other way... We have suggested to a new Eagle and
his family that they might want to consider doing a double. One particular
time that comes to mind was when one family had zero discretionary time
(father on TDY most of the time, mother working, small brothers/sisters,
scarce $, family fairly new in town, no relatives interested in traveling
long distances to attend, etc.) to make a big fuss over their Scout.
Another kid passed his Eagle BOR about the same time and his family was
famous for putting on a grand show. The two families got together and did
a super job for the two Scouts...everybody had a ball!
IMHO, the Troop needs to keep a very open mind and an active imagination so
that we can help each Eagle feel that his accomplishment is as
earth-shaking as WE know it to be. Kids and families and Troops are so
different (from person to person AND from year to year <g>) that I don't
believe that there is any one best answer to the multiple-COH question. We
should stay primed to do the very best we can for EVERY kid....whatever
that might mean!
BTW, I absolutely agree that we shouldn't push the new Eagles into a
multiple Eagle COH just because it might seem to be a little more
convenient for the Troop <g>.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City