Re: Boy needs help......please read.
Michael F. Bowman (mfbowman@CAPACCESS.ORG)
Mon, 4 Mar 1996 02:10:44 -0500
It sure sounds like your Cub Scout is crying for attention, while acting
out his resentment, anger, and frustration regarding the divorce of his
parents. I tend to agree with the thoughts of Whit and Stephen. For
this boy, Scouting may make all the difference. But it is also a very
difficult situation. You also have several other Cubs that need your
Getting the custodial parent to attend meetings with him is a step in the
right direction, but one that you'll have to watch. I had a parent come
with one Cub to Den Meetings and the Cub acted even worse. If so you may
need to evaluate what it will take to continue to have him at meetings.
Could another parent be recruited as a second Assistant Den Leader to
make sure the rest of the Cubs get a good program, while you work with
this one? Is the behavior improving or manageable? Is this a situation
where the parent needs to seek professional help?
Our hearts go out to kids like this, because we can see the tremendous
need and because we know that if they drop out, things are probably not
going to get better for the child. If you can work it through, you may be
able to really make a difference. Rewarding good behavior, praising, and
giving plenty of attention are good approaches to short-circuiting the
pattern leading to his undesirable episodes. This takes time and
If you find that you are not able to handle the situation or that it is
getting worse, you should remember that you have a responsibility to the
other Cubs too. This may be particularly true, if this Cub takes out his
aggression on them. While you may be able to handle physical aggression
directed at you, the Cub cannot be allowed to do the same towards the
other Cubs. You may also have to decide whether it is beyond your
capacity to continue to try to help. You are there primarily to see that
all of the Cubs have a good program.
I wish you luck as you explore the alternatives and continue to evaluate
at each step.
Speaking Only for Myself in the Scouting Spirit, Michael F. Bowman
a/k/a Professor Beaver (WB), ASTA #2566, OA Vigil Honor '71, Eagle
Scout '67, Serving as Deputy District Commissioner for Training,
G.W.Dist., Nat. Capital Area Council, BSA - email@example.com
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