Boy needs help......please read.
Gene Soares (GRS5@AOL.COM)
Sat, 2 Mar 1996 19:43:13 -0500
I am a new Wolf Den Leader currently working with a fine group of boys.
However, I have one boy in my group who just seems to get more and more
uncooperative with each passing meeting. Some background; parents are
divorced and Dad lives in another state. He is as disruptive in school as he
is in Scouts. I practice extreme patience with this boy and it seems that the
more patient I am with him the worse his behavior gets. He seems to WANT me
to get angry, which I dont.....(externally!)
Favorite quotes include " I QUIT!", "BORING!!", "They started it" I could go
on but I think you get the idea.
We had an episode this past meeting (which prompted this post) where the
group was playing a team game, he became upset because he didn't get the ball
as much as he would have liked so, he quit and sat off to the side. I decided
maybe thats the best place for him right now and continued with the activity.
Well, this really got him going and he bolted from the yard. I had to chase
this boy and physically direct him back to the house, and once there he
wheeled on me and punched me right in the stomach! Before I could recover he
was off again! (my neckerchief did some flapping that night!) Now, I'm sure
that a few years down the road this is all going to be quite humorous, but
that cant diminish the concern I have for this kid now.
I guess what I'm asking is if anyone here has had similar problems and if so,
please, any advice would be most appreciated. I have called the Mother
already and she has agreed to come to meetings until he settles down. Yet, it
still seems that this problem runs deeper than I have been able to convey
here. He needs some kind of breakthrough and I know he can benefit from this
program. I spend most of my time at meetings with him, but that takes away
from the group.
So, I put it to you my friends. With all the experience gathered here in this
group, I'm sure your advise can help turn this boy around. Feel free to
answer here or you may e-mail me privately at GRS5@aol.com
Leader - Pack 1514
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