Re: Time Crunch
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Sat, 2 Mar 1996 01:47:28 -0600
Jan writes a really good question:
>Scouters, I admire that so many of you spend so much time in >Scouting
activities. What are your secrets for managing the >balance between these
activities and families with your jobs?
Here's what I tell Scouters:
First, make sure that you have a hand in the planning of your
unit's activities. There's nothing like having a program "preplanned" and
all of a sudden, you're "forced" to adopt some
plan which is totally incompatible with your work or home habits.
This planning should include, but not limited to, knowledge of
major activities of your work (inventories, major projects, and for us
military types, changes-of-command, major training exercises and "special
duty" days (for instance, while in Germany,
I and every other LT in the unit got to be "officer of the day"
for a 24 hour period once every "how many LTs are in the unit"
(which went between 35 and 41). This required me to insure that
either I "swap out" with someone else way in advance, or not go
on the Scouting event).
Second, make sure that your spouse and children are FULLY AWARE (not "hey,
I'll be gone tommorrow for the weekend!", but way in
advance!!) of upcoming Scouting activities and events. Many of
our events are suitable for the family to attend, so that's not
much of a problem; but some events should be "just for the unit".
You have to find that balance between "taking everyone" and "going it
alone", Jan, and that's hard for me or anyone to describe to you. When I
was with my kids, I took each child with me to various Scouting or Exploring
events and they considered it "a special treat": I took Amanda and Andrew to
Cub Scouting den meetings and Pack meetings; Andrew got to go with my
to Florida and to North Carolina; Aaron got to go to District
Committee meetings and to some campouts, although he was many times too sick
to really appreciate many events...which leads me
to the third point.
Don't try to "take care of your children" while you are taking care of or
have responsibility for others...I was really lucky,
in my kids were young and I took only one at a time with me (and
the periods were small, because their mother wanted them home).
However, I've also had times whereby my Troop felt like they were
all "babysitting" as well...and that's NOT fair to them.
Fourth, talk with your boss IN ADVANCE about what you do within
Scouting. I have this talk with every supervisor shortly after
being hired. I explain that "I'm a Scouting leader, and on
occasion, I may need to take off for a weekend to" do whatever. I
provide him or her a calendar of MAJOR events that I am to take
part in, and I arrange to work early or late or over a following
weekend in exchange for the freedom to be off for Scouting on the
weekend that I needed.
Fifth, DON'T PUSH IT. If you know that your company has a critical project
requiring your work or prescense, don't attempt
to take off for Scouting. Sometimes, you have to remember that
while Scouting pays off in the future, PRESENTLY, it won't "put
the jingle in your pockets". This goes back to my first comment
about making sure that your unit KNOWS when you are available and
when you're not.
Finally, Jan, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE AT LEAST ONE COMMITTED ASSISTANT.
I learned this the hard way, when I was Scoutmaster of a Troop in
Kentucky...I was it. While I had several Assistants "on paper", I
didn't learn the fine art of "holding their feet to the fire".
I later created a "Leadership Agreement" form which served as a
committment contract for my Assistants and Junior Assistants (when
we gave our Junior Assistant Scoutmasters more authority than we
can now). You need to make sure FOR THE SCOUTS' SAKE, not your
own, that there's SOMEONE that will take them on the activity if
for some reason you cannot. This became VERY important to me in
Germany, as when the protesters started in on the nuclear missile
sites in southern Germany, my military unit had to be called in to
"disperse them"...the week BEFORE our District Fall Camporee in
Switzerland. I had two Assistant Scoutmasters, both of which belonged to
units outside of mine, and which were trained and coached by our District
and me...and the program continued.
>I start half time work next week and I'm scared stiff I will >neglect my
boys (my sons and my other Wolfs) because of my work >and Scouting activities.
Share your fears with your Wolves. Tell them that you want to "do
your best" in your new job, but at the same time that you want to
continue to have a great time with them. As them for their help and
cooperation and express to them that sometimes you will seem as not to "have
everything together" for them because of the time
factor...stress the positive side as well: more money for your family which
means that you would be able to do more Scouting.
You'd be really amazed, Jan, at what our youth can do!! You may
find that by just talking with them, that things will go a LOT smoother than
you ever expected.
(That reminds me that I have to post the "I'm having a Baby" Posting!)
>What's the balance? I know most of you attend lots more meetings >and
training than I do. I'd like to be a more active Scouter. >Hints?
Take "baby steps". Don't "dive in"...crawl and get confortable,
and then walk a little, and then once you learn how far you can
go without problems at home, work or Scouting, then you can start
committing yourself to more and more activities.
That's how I do it.
Settummanque!@Hey Jan! Congrats on the job!!
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