Re: Relatives, SMs at Eagle BOR
Michael F. Bowman (mfbowman@CAPACCESS.ORG)
Tue, 12 Dec 1995 04:40:39 -0500
The issue you raised of a conflict between Advancement and YPP policies
is interesting. YPP does say that all of Scouting is open to the
parents. It of course does not say when or how much.
YPP was designed to reduce the chances for abuse directed at Scouts. In
an Eagle BOR where the SM can be present with at least three other
adults, the criteria of YPP are fairly met and the risk is nil. YPP
should be satisfied. And my answer to the parents, would be that they
have participated in the process all along, but here it is critical for
the Scout to be able to speak freely and frankly without pressure or fear
of embarassment in front of his parents.
This seems to be that the one time in Scouting where parents are definitely
not to participate is the specific event of the Eagle BOR. However,
since they have participated in the process and the intent of YPP is
being served, I would say that the conflict will only arise if a
particular parent want to play armchair lawyer and try to get in. This
parent should be counseled about what the BOR is going to do, how it
operates, and the need for his/her son to be able to speak freely. The
same thing would happen in a personal growth counseling session with a
professional counselor and this is about personal growth. Maybe that
would help. Then again there's always one.
If push came to shove, I suspect that the local SE would consult with
National and they would allow the parent in, but only after trying hard
to avoid this result. Such a parent would be doing the Scout a
disservice in my opinion and would be making the review all that much
more difficult for the Scout.
Some of have commented on parents that just have to be present for
everything that junior does. Too much of this is stifling to
development. When do they plan to stop and allow independent growth?
When the kid goes off to college to experiment with all that was
previously forbidden? I've seen a few where I wondered how the 24 year
old child was going to be allowed to be alone with his bride on his wedding
Speaking only for myself in the Scouting Spirit, Michael F. Bowman
DDC-Training, GW Dist. Nat Capital Area Council mfbowman@CAPACCESS.ORG
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