Re: Advice needed(long but serious)
Stephen Hoar (hoar@AGDIS01.NEWARK.AF.MIL)
Wed, 6 Dec 1995 14:06:38 -0500
In your message of 6 Dec 1995 at 1337 EST, you write:
> Your Eagle-candidate may be different in other settings precisely because
> his father is not around. If his father is riding him hard, he may be
> acting out a rejection of that authority (normal adolescent development)
> without even knowing he's doing it. Maybe the best thing would be for
> his father to step down and just let his son have a chance to bloom on
> his own. One of the hardest things as a parent is to allow a child to
> make mistakes and learn how to decide things on their own. This dad may
> be having some real problems in knowing when to back off. Maybe some of
> the other adults need to tell him this is a possibility - he doesn't have
> to like the input, but hopefully it will cause him some reflection.
You bring up a good point. In our troop there are two boys who have
rather domineering fathers. When dad is around they are quiet and
passive. I like to chase their dads away because when he is gone they
are active, full of ideas, willing to lead and try out new things. It
is a difference between night and day. Whenever we go out or about I
do my best to keep fathrs and sons apart so that the son has a chance
to grow on his own. They haven't let me down yet.
Steve in Newark.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City