Re: NEEDED OPINIONS!!!
Ted Burton (tedbrtn@CYBERHIGHWAY.NET)
Mon, 27 Nov 1995 19:11:55 -0700
Melanie posted re a girl scout troop and one girl who failed to call in her
intent to go on an outing, at which time with your having planned to let
her learn by failure, i.e. not to let her go because she did not call in,
your co-leader and life partner called her to inquire concerning her plans.
Your situation is incredibly complicated by the mixing of marriage into
In Boy Scouts each patrol is responsible to plan its meals, and to notify
the Troop of its transportation needs, and the combination usually ensures
adequate advance planning (otherwise the patrol is short of food or short
of money; and short of transportation inconveniences all of them). Yet the
conflict within your family strongly resembles the conflict in my soul.
Letting the boys do it all and fail from time to time, always leaves me
worrying that someone will have had a bad time and will drop out. In the
short run the desire to keep membership up in some ways conflicts with the
need to let the boys fail as a learning experience. In the long run,
letting them fail will increase membership as it is undoubtedly true that
boy led troops work better and attract more kids than adult run troops do;
the kids quickly spot any transfer of classroom techniques to Scouting with
the adults as teachers of the sit-still-and-listen variety. I do not envy
your having to sort that out in a marriage setting.
Above all else, do not let this matter stew and fester. If you are not both
trained, see to it that you both do get trained. If GSA does not offer you
training where you are, ask on the list for hints where to go. If you are
both trained, then may I suggest that if this does not blow over quickly
that you get some counseling. Now, there, I've done it. REALLY stuck my
nose in.... oh. well, lets see where I left my Nomex suit....
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