Over protective adults
Tim Falend (MrF161@AOL.COM)
Tue, 26 Sep 1995 07:27:06 -0400
What are we to do? In our Troop we have a parent/scout combo that we are not
able to separate. The ONLY time the scout attends an outing is when his
father does. When THEY are on an outing they pretty much are attached. We run
a youth run program and at times he tells his son that he does not have to do
a duty his patrol leader requests. I have talked to them on this briefly At
times, dad will make up excuses for why he(the son) can not do these duties.
At times they border on medical reasons which makes it a little less cut and
dry about making him do these duties. One instance was that as a troop we
were on a campout and the program was to hike in patrols in the state park.
Saturday morning as we were ready to leave our site he stated that his son
had a sore ankle and could not hike, they proceeded to go to a nearby fishing
hole and fished instead. Knowing the fathers ways, I think that the reason
for attending the outing was to go fishing and NEVER had any plans to
participate in the hike. The program agenda was spelled out prior to them
signing up. They create their own program under our umbrella of a program.
They even go as far as to bring their own food for campouts instead of
cooking with the patrol/troop, even after the scout was very involved in the
menu planning. They have also disappeared at dinner time to find out later
they went out to eat a nearby restaurant. How do we approach them or should
we say the father and get this straighten out. This scout could make it all
the way to eagle with his father in tow, or should we say the father could
make it to eagle with the kid in tow. It is very hard to prove who did the
advancement as they do all of it outside the troop program. This problem
existed in his Cub Scout days as well! How do we stop it, any suggestions?
If you have ideas, drop me some e-mail
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City