Re: HELP: Handing Divorced Parents
Settummanque, the blackeagle (waltoml@WKUVX1.WKU.EDU)
Tue, 8 Aug 1995 11:08:09 CDT
Michael Smith <msmith@EMST-DC.PLANSYS.COM> writes:
>Last year we had a few problems with scouts whose parents had separated or
>divorced. Basically, information getting to one parent was not getting to
>the other and the boys missed out on some outings and were ill-prepared for
As the non-custodial father of three, I can understand the
communications gap personally.
>This year during registration, we are thinking about requiring parents who
>are not living together to identify in writing which parent will be
>responsible for scouting activities.
This is normally the parent which has legal custody of the child,
Mike. In some cases will both parents participate but in most cases,
it has been only the parent with custody that will assume the roles of
insuring that their child get to and from Scouting activities. This
gets more stickier when the parent has boy/girl friends that will also
want to participate with the child in Scouting activities, sometimes
to get closer to the child and sometimes to get closer to the parent.
How about something like this:
"Hi and Welcome to Troop 000
We would like for your son to enjoy Scouting to the upmost, while
providing for his personal safety at the same time.
We understand in today's society, many of our Scouts do not live in
what used to be called a "nuclear family". Some of our Scouts live
with one parent or the other, with grandparents or guardians, or with
other relatives. In order to eliminate potentially embarrasing
situations, as well as to allow our Scoutmaster and Assistants to know
the parents/guardians of our Scouts, we are asking you to please provide
the following information. This information is VOLUNTARY; you choose
what you would like to share with us and what you choose not to.
Please provide the name and phone number of the primary adult which
serves as parent/legal guardian of Scout _______________________:
Name Phone number
Please provide, if possible, the name(s) of other adults which will be
accompaning Scout _________________________ to activities of Troop
[note: you don't need to know the RELATIONSHIP of those other adults,
just know that they will be around the Scout. Many separated adults may
not sign or complete anything if it requires them to STATE the
relationship other adults have to them or the Scout!]
Thanks for your understanding and cooperation. We are striving to
meet the needs of not only our Scouts but our families as well.
If you have any questions about the usage of this form, please contact
me at _______________.
Thanks and welcome to Troop 000's family. We are glad you are here!
Ima G. Scouter
Scoutmaster, Troop 000
>Has anyone ever done this before??? Does this make sense to do??? If anyone
>has done this, could you please post something to help us. We are really
>getting hung up on the wording (we must be PC right?) and procedure (do both
>parents have to sign?
Only the parent with legal custody needs to sign. It is a good idea
to provide both parents with copies of the form, but in reality I
never see anything my former wife fills out with regards to my
children, even though I've asked for copies of those documents.
>Thanks in advance for any help you in scouts-Land can provide.
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