Re: What I did on Summer Vacation <g>
Marc Solomon (msolomon@TEK1.TEKNIQ.COM)
Wed, 19 Jul 1995 14:40:55 -0500
At 01:20 AM 7/19/95 -0400, Mary Beth Hunt wrote:
>These past few posts about a military-type scoutleader at camp reiterates
>just why I ALWAYS accompany my child to camp! I would not be comfortable
>letting her go to camp with that type of leader.I want to be part of her life
>and make sure that what she is learning is what I would teach her.
Although (as I stated in an earlier post) I am aghast by what Charlotte
wrote about the Scouters (and I use that term loosely), I feel just as sorry
about your child as I do about Charlotte's.
There are learning experiences you are preventing your child from having.
How is she ever to become her own person if you are always with her. Do you
go to school with her, too? I doubt that not being at summer camp with her
would prevent you from being a part of her life but having you always there
prevents her from learning responsibility, self-reliance, and self
confidence. I am sure these are all traits you want your daughter to have.
Why would you prevent her from learning these things by having you always
there to rely on? You didn't mention the age of your daughter. Maybe she
is still to young to learn these traits. The Scouts that Charlotte was
talking about are all in the range of 11 to 17 and are more than capable of
learning these things.
I feel that a major goal in sending children to summer camp is to install
these traits. If you taught your child both by word and deed the morals you
would like her to live by, I am sure that one or two weeks at summer camp
without you could not deter her from the morals you have taught her all her
As a Scouter, I have spent much time keeping parents away from their
children so that the child can mature. Many parents do not realize how they
are limiting and undermining their children by being overprotective. The
child does not get to see the realities of life and are not able to
completely care for themselves when it is time to leave the nest.
My parents spent much time making sure that I was ready to live by myself
when i was old evough to. I realize that it was not always easy for them to
let me make my own mistakes so that I could learn from them. As a parent, I
would love to keep my own daughter from being hurt. But that is not the way
of the world and I realize that for her to learn, she must experience the
bad as well as the good. No child learns to walk without falling down a few
times. Be there when the child falls down and insist on him/her getting up,
brushing themself off, and trying again. Give them a safe area to fall down
in. But do not prevent them from walking!
Yours in Scouting,
| Marc W. Solomon | Unit Commissioner |
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