Re: Parent Problem (more...)
John Waidner (jtwaidner@IQUEST.NET)
Fri, 21 Apr 1995 20:02:00 EST
Doc Fox has it right. Although the easy way out is to put a "be involved or
your son's not welcome" ultimatum to the parent, that approach isn't doing a
bit of good for the kid. Boys in situations like that who WANT to be be a
part of Scouting are the ones we should be busting our butts to KEEP.
Maintain two-deep coverage but do everything possible to help these kids
stick with Scouting.
As I write this I'm stewing over a similar problem. Situation: Mother,
recently divorced for second time and reestablishing a career, and son who
may be ADD (or at least borderline). Mother "...has no time for Cub
stuff..." or money for registration and insurance ($7.70!), but has plenty
of time for two older kids (soccer, ballet, choir, karate, etc.). Son is
starved (as in "starved") for affection and latches onto any male figure who
shows even the slightest warmth. Boy is bright and articulate, a really
nice kid. I can understand that he is probably a handfull at home but, as
has been stated often on this list in similar situations, if you understand
it you can deal with it. Right or wrong, I'm siding with the boy (privately).
I want to retain this boy in our Pack.. I thought about bring the boy's
father into this but that's a problem. Boy's father, who lives locally, is
a not-to-be-mentioned subject to his mother since they aren't on civil terms
with each other. With the Den leader we are going to offer to provide
transportation to/from Den/Pack events. We're also going to offer the
Pack's assistance to cover the cost of registration and insurance.
Will let you all know how it goes,
CC, Pack 132
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City