Re: Parent Problem
Ted Burton (tedburtn@HALCYON.COM)
Thu, 20 Apr 1995 06:07:04 -0600
Mike Keables Cubmaster, spoke of a parent stranding a child at meeting
Oh, my. I have had that problem.
One time I took a boy home under similar circumstances, and was greeted by
mother's boyfriend with a beer can in one hand. The boy slunk into the
house, turning as he went so as not to turn his back on the boyfriend. Took
that one to the SE & a friend on the Police who works with abuse
situations. Never saw the boy again.
Another time I stood outside a school after a camping trip weekend; went
in, called mom, she said she'd be there. Thirty minutes or more go by; call
Mom again, she is angry to have been disturbed, and came storming over to
the school and jerks the boy into the car, and storms off again. Turns out
she was recording a movie off the TV ad was zapping the ads and didn't want
to leave and have ads wind up on tape. About a month later the boy returned
to a Troop meeting, apologetically, and attended faithfully after that. My
assistants and I just took turns taking him home. We figured he got more
out of us and our meetings than we were giving his parent.
There is never a stock solution. Always played by ear. Never be alone with
the child. Take your own child at least on the trip. Heck, these days go on
a two adult vehicle convoy. Who knows, you may have a route. Some would say
you should tell the parents that the boy isn't welcome if they are not
willing to cooperate. That's an approach many would push. Me I was always
too much of a softie for the kids.
One of these missing parent situations one year a boy comes to talk to me
on a campout and says, "Mr. Burton, may I call you Dad?" Talk about choking
up! After thanking him for the complement, and telling him I would be proud
to be his father but I was not his father, we compromised on "Ted"
Ain't this world always wonderful? Part of why we exist is to be a good
infuence and role model for the children of these a--h---s.
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"Alappiechsin Wiechcheu, FastTalking Wolf"
Tukarica Lodge 266, Ore-Ida Council 106
Post 246 CR, D. Eagle Rep., Troop 246 MC
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>Greetings, fellow scouters!!
>I'd like some advice on how to handle a rather disturbing problem that
>at 8 pm when the meeting was over, there was no one to pick him up and
>nobody at home when the den leader called. As it happened, I was in
>the school for our spring recruiting meeting so I waited until 8:30
>with the scout and another leader until the custodian had to lock up.
>It was cold and snowing quite hard, so my son and I took the boy home.
>I spoke with the boy's father about my concern and reminded him that
>someone from the family must be prepared to pick up the scout
>promptly from the meetings. The father's reply was "Oh," followed by
>the door closing in my face.
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