Re: Daycamp - Camp Cover Girl
Joanne Burns, Admin. Asst., History (BURNS@SSCL.UWO.CA)
Thu, 30 Mar 1995 17:36:09 -0500
This didn't want to go the first time, try again!
> Hi Mary Beth-
> Read your posting with interest. Was there any more infomation provided on the
> Camp Cover Girl? The reason I was asking was because we have a girl in our
> Guide company that we are having some discipline problems with. And today I
> spoke with my District Commissioner and she suggested we have a communication
> night *on being yourself*, and talk about things like, what do you like about
> yourself? what body type are you? boys, make-up, etc. The Guides are aged
> 8-12, but I was thinking that perhaps we should just have a separate night for
> the third year girls (11/12), and hope that this one Guide will come out.
> Basically our problem is that this Guide has become quite defiant and
> disruptive and nobody seems to want to do anything about it. There are some
> family problems at home and I'm not sure exactly what they are. The head
> leader does not want to do anything, because I have suggested that we talk to
> the Guide's mom. The other leaders live in the same neighbourhood as this
> Guide and the Guide's mom is always saying things like "I wish I never had her
> (meaning the Guide), it was the worst thing I ever did". Since February I have
> noticed a distinct difference in this Guide's behaviour. She doesn't want to do
> anything and she flatly says "I don't want to" and "I'm bored". When I talked
> to her the first time that Guides was team effort and participation, and if she
> didn't want to participate, why was she coming to Guides, she flatly said that
> "my Mom won't let me quit". I have tried several methods of having her be my
> special helper and asking her what game she would like to organize, etc. I get
> much of the same answers, only "Oh, nobody likes that game", etc.
> My initial feeling was that her mother should be called, and if the mother
> wants her in Guides, then the mother should help out. This Guide is also a
> patrol leader, and I felt that with her behaviour, she perhaps shouldn't be a
> patrol leader any longer.I know she wasn't like this last year at camp and
> that she was most helpful.
> I am having a really tough time with this because the head leader and one of
> the other leaders just won't deal with her (ignore her),
> and our third leader keeps telling me
> "well, this is the reason we're in Guides, and this is the girl that needs our
> help", but this leader offers no suggestions on how we deal with her when she
> is at Guides. I guess I'm the only one who is bothered by her behaviour.
> I know, we only have 2 more months of Guides and we're done, but
> I have to deal with her for the next 2 months, so I need some guidance.
> We also have a lot going on in the next two months, and you know what they say,
> "monkey see, monkey do". If this Guide doesn't have to do things, the other
> Guides may feel, well why do I have to do this if she doesn't?
> Anyway, if you could tell me with the Camp Cover Girl idea, and if you have any
> thoughts on what other methods I could use to reach this girl, I would very
> much appreciate it. My patience is wearing thin.
> Jo Burns
> 31B Beavers, 85B Brownies, 35 Guides
> London, Ontario, Canada
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