Couples on Scout outings
hilding holroyd (blustone!pennies!hilding@UUNET.UU.NET)
Tue, 7 Feb 1995 08:41:19 EST
Good day to all,
A couple of items.... (whoops, no pun intended)
The Scout Troop (BSA) with which I am associated does not have
any single parents. However, it is an ever increasing occurrence.
I have read the other postings regarding the show of affection
(or more) on Scout/Explorer outings. I can see where there is a
double standard for youth and adults. (Adults can do, youth cannot).
My 2 cents is that we as adults are providing an example to our youth.
We want it to be as "good" as possible. I have been married for over
20 years. It has been commented to my wife that others think it is
really "neat" (archaic word now-a-days) to see us walking hand in hand
along the trails at camp on visitors day, or have a quick goodbye kiss
before she leaves in the hands of the young. It is also nice to have
the contact after being with just Scout company for most of the week.
Youth DO see how adults behave. I trust that I am showing Scouts an example
of a marriage that has worked (no insult or disrespect intended to
ANYONE not married for ANY reason). If Scouts under my care also wish to
show affection for someone of the opposite sex, I would think that it is
healthy, within certain limits. Holding hands, a quick goodbye kiss; I
cannot see that these should be stopped, especially since that is what I
do. I would much rather have them (this includes my 3 teenagers, too) do
that in front of me rather than (something else??) behind my back.
There are fine lines, yes. But I try to temper the "restrictions" with
some wise council, too. Which leads me to another topic ....
re: Youth Protection Policy for BSA
Over the years I have seen the Youth Protection Plan of BSA
evolve into something that some units work with easily and
others use as a barrier. Sometimes, I have found that I work
within the "spirit" of the regulations and not just the "letter
of the law". Case in point; driving scouts to activities.
Technically there should be 2 adults in each vehicle because
of YPP. This, in most cases, is very impractical and it reduces
the number of seats for Scouts. Our Troop has been quite comfortable
with 1 adult and their own child(ren) in the vehicle when transporting
other Scouts. Of course, I make sure that my own children stay in the
car and are dropped off last. This has worked quite well. And, NO, it is not
approached with the YPP, but the troop is very aware of the good points
Again, no insult intended to anyone. Just an expression of personal opinion.
Hilding W. Holroyd Advancement Chairman, Tr 250
Lakewood, NJ Jersey Shore Council
Eagle Class '68 Japeechen Lodge (Brotherhood)
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