Non parent as Scouters
Patrick De Gagne (Patrick.De.Gagne@SCOUTING.HEXACOM.COM)
Thu, 2 Feb 1995 13:11:24 -0500
> From: Carey Probst <HCProbst@AOL.COM>
> Subject: Non-parents as leaders
> After an unfortunate experience in our troop several years
> ago, I have come to the conclusion that all prospective
> leaders should be thoroughly(sp) background checked.
I couldn't agree more with you. Unfortunately spotting an abusive adult that
has never been "caught" or even suspected is probably the hardest thing anyone
> We had a scout earn his eagle, the first Eagle Scout in...
> the relatively new troop. After he graduated he went to
> college locally, lived at home, and rarely missed a troop
> meeting or outing. He was one of our Asst. Scoutmasters.
Sounds like an average young man very much into Scouting.
> He was great at recruiting boys who really needed scouting,
> mostly those from poorer single parent homes. Everyone
> thought he was great. The mothers though that he was
> a godsend and wonderful example for their sons.
Ouch... Unfortunately boys from single families where the father is absent
are all too often one of the easiest targets of pedophiles. Boys with no
fatherly figure at home are very often craving a male role model (which is
often evident to us Scouters who have kids of single mothers in our troops).
When a pedophile becomes that role model and gives the boy more attention than
they are used to receiving, then the kids will often endure an amazing amount
of wrong doing from an abuser just to keep him as a "friend".
> We at the troop leader level all thought that he was chasing
> the mothers, since most of them were young and attractive.
Unfortunately the flip side of that is that all the young mothers had unstable
sons who were ease to abuse.
> Imagine our surprise when he was arrested for attempting to
> sodomize one of the scouts at his parents's home.
A most unfortunate incident, but what really scares me is: How many other
young boys did he abuse before getting caugt?
> The leader was arrested and fined after a plea bargain. No one
> wanted to testify.
Now THAT really pisses me off... And worse is that too many child abusers get
away with it that easily. Parents don't want to `stir up trouble', so the
abuser is free to keep on preying on other boys (let's not forget that
pedophiles don't just forget their urges overnight).
> All the troop leadership thought this kid was great, and several had
> known him since he joined the troop at 11, including his scoutmaster.
> then TCC, who was a school psychologist with a PhD who didn't see
> the problem.
As I said, until such person gets caught, there is virtually almost NO WAY to
spot them if they act normally when in public. Some people have decided
arbitrarely that "Unwed young men" are not welcome in their troops as they may
be more likely than others to have some bad intentions... In my opinion
though that doesn't hold too much validity... (though it may comfort the
people who'd like to believe it).
I personally had 3 Scoutmsaters in my troop when I was a kid. All 3 were fine
respected members of the community, all wed with children of Scout age. Of the
3, 2 of them were found to be pedophiles. Though I was never one of their
victims, a couple of my good friends were. The first Scouter liked to be
rather a little too friendly with single mothers and their boys and usually
ended up having sex with the kids after a long "fatherly" relationship. This
guy had children and never once abused them. The other Scouter was also a
really friendly guy... and also enjoyed single mothers boys... though he never
touched a kid (to our knowledge) his thing was making porno Videos of several
young boys having sex...(Back then VCR's and Video Cameras were really a
novelty item which captivated the boys).
Of course I'm not saying that Non Parents can't be abusers... I've also known
of one asst leader of 19 who was caught at a camp masturbating while peeking
at the boys in the showers... just as sick a person as the two above.
The bottom line is pretty well that there simply isn't a simple way to easily
detect those parasites to society. As long as we follow the basic CYA rule
(Cover Your Arse) with 2 deep leadership and are watchfull for signs then we
can say we're doing our best to protect our kids.
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