Re: Re : Bullying - is it our problem ?
Thu, 15 Dec 1994 14:42:54 MST
>Does anyone have really good ideas for dealing with these guys?
<Besides the axiom: "If you're alone, you're lost">
>Unfortunately I can't provide You with results of any "Courage"-
>workshops, since I was too busy too attend seminars etc., but we do have
>this problem, too, and we try to do something about it.
>Enjoy X-mas and have a great new year,
Couldn't help but think back on the early 1930s. Europe and the world
practiced a philosophy of non-violence in response to some very
extraordinarily violent people. If we had met violence for violence from the
start, might we have saved countless millions of lives? A tough choice for
national leaders; and no easy task for a young boy.
My own son was victimized for 6 months by a school gang in 5th grade...yes 5th
grade. I kept telling him to ignore the kids and go his own way. I discovered
later he was hiding at the school hours after the last bell. One day I left
work early and waited at a back gate to the school. There I found the "gang"
ready and waiting. And yes, they started to chase other boys and gang up on
them. I interupted their fun. But nothing changed in the long run. The
police were involved and school authories, etc. But one day by son did the
opposite of what I taught him, he went after the kids with a 2 by 4 piece of
wood. They never touched him again.
When dealing with violent people, they only understand violence. If my son had
followed by advise much longer, he probably would have ended-up emotionally
disturbed for life, or perhaps dead. In short, telling my son to turn the
other cheek only made things much worse for him, and gave the gang more power!
The question you ask revolves around the question: what is the true nature of
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City