Re: BSA:Women at camp
Scott Begin (0005555440@MCIMAIL.COM)
Tue, 6 Dec 1994 23:48:00 EST
Charles Schmidt <schmidt@UNIX3.IS.TCU.EDU> writes,
"So the policy remains - any man or woman with a son in the troop is
welcome, but the moms should stay at home. "
This statment may sound sexist, but I think it is a very good policy (if
it is implemented as I interpret it).
I have no problem with the mother of a scout attending a campout/ summer
camp. However, the key thing is that the mother acts in the capacity
as a scout leader, letting boys make mistakes and learn from the
experience. I have seen fathers with this problem as well.
I see two problems when a parent acts too much like a parent on a scout
outing. The first is that the scout is robbed of an oportunity to learn
from a mistake (or otherwise learn by doing). The second problem
involves peer pressure. When any parent helps their son on a scout
trip, it may be percieved as a weekness by the other scouts (you had to
have your dad help you set up your tent, you're a wimp). For some
reason, in the minds of 11-12-13 year olds, having mom help you do
anything is ten times worse than having dad help you do the same thing.
This can cause acceptance problems with the rest of the scouts, and this
is at a age when many kids are not sure where they fit in.
In the two years I have been in this troop, I have seen at least one
scout that had his mother come along on a trip, was mothered too much,
and didn't stay in the troop long. He also didn't seem to be accepted
by the scouts all that well.
For some mothers and fathers, it takes longer before they learn to let
the kid fail and not to try to help them too much. My mom took a little
more than a year. My dad took quite a bit longer. I also remember that
my father didn't want to go on my first scout camping trip so that he
wouldn't get in the way of me learning scouting.
Yours in Scouting,
Scott A. Begin ASM, T-348, Oak Forest, IL; Calumet Council
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