do we expel him?
Darla Keller (C60DJK1@MVS.CSO.NIU.EDU)
Fri, 18 Nov 1994 18:23:00 CST
Do we expel him?
I think you need to review your priorities as a leader. Above all
else we must insure a safe and healthy environment for our SCouts.
You are responsible for the actions of your youth. If you have a
boy that you cannot accept resonsibility for because of his actions,
then his actions must change or his involvement in the program must
He must understand this fact. One problem he may have is an inabilit
to understand how his actions affect others and ultimately himself.
Paintball guns, even in an organized event, is against national
policy, as is fireworks.
One of the prime goals of Scouting is to teach citizenship. Part of
that includes obeying laws and being responsible for one's actions.
A long conference should take place with this boy. These things
need to be pointed out to him in no uncertain terms. Don't forget
to include a positive discussion about his good qualities though.
He needs positive reenforcement of those things he has done well.
Your responsibility to the other Scouts in the unit necessitate his
removal for at least a period of time.
I would be more likely to suspend him for a period of time rather
than expell him permanently. Leave the door open to a future in
Scouting, but link it to concrete goals of improved behavior.
Sometimes the problem boys are the ones that most need Scouting,
but their involvment should based on the Scout's best attempt to
obey the Scout Law and Oath, not his own rebelious activity.
Present these things to him in a quiet calm one on one discussion.
Ask him how he feels about his actions. Ask him what he would feel
in the other boys situation or yours. Ask questions that require
him to think about this problem in other points of view.
Explore the possibilties of other external problems in his life.
This could be done through a casual conversational dialogue about
his feelings about himself, his family, school, friends, etc. His
behavior may be the symptom of a deeper problem.
A seperate discussion should be held with his parents outlining the
problems created for the troop, sponsoring organization, and leaders.
You need their support at home to make a meaningful Scouting program
Don't give up on the boy, but don't give in to him either. Teach him
that he is responsible for his actions. Any punitive actions taken
against him are his own doing.
Make the boy understand the Christian concept of hate the sin and not
the sinner. Although you may like him as a person, you do not like
his actions and cannot accept his actions as a Scout in your troop.
You might give him a scoresheet to rate himself on each of the 12
points of the Scout Law. Which ones he does best and worst. Hew he
Identify the problem with him, identify solutions, discuss these
with him. Together set behavior goals required for reinstatement
into the troop on an agreed upon timetable. You need to set the
limits. He needs to toe the mark. You cannot allow one Scout to
ruin the Scouting program for other boys. It's that simple.
Yours in SCouting,
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City