do we expel him?
John Monahan (YB50@MUSIC.FERRIS.EDU)
Fri, 18 Nov 1994 12:04:16 EST
I need some help on a serious behavior issue.
Our troop has a young man ready to have his LIFE BoR and the troop
leadership is wrestling with the behavior he has been exhibiting for
several months now.
Here is the problem, this Scout can and has shown true leadership in the
troop and has been generally a good member of the troop. Our problem
is he has been exhibiting more frequent and more outragous behavior
since summer. He has had a history of outbursts and general disruptive
behavior but for nearly a year has been on "the fast track" having
completed the requirements for 3 rank advancements during this time. The
recent incidents have included fireworks, VERY rough behavior with
younger members, and the most glaring - He shot someone with a paintball
gun after our most recent meeting and caused a welt about 2 to 2 1\2"
across and 1\4" high with discoloration and bruising to about 6" on his
abdominal (beltline) area.
The dilemma we face is: should we continue to bend the rules for this
boy and hope that his actions do not become increasingly more violent
and disruptive or do we mandate that his parents come with him to all
troop functions or (as the parents of the boy shot have indicated) get
rid of him or else. The boy who was shot has also been roughed up by
this boy on more than one occasion, always apologetic afterwards but ??
It has been suggested and generally approved that the BoR should either
be postponed until he exhibits the true Scouting spirit or held and not
allow the advancement to LIFE until he has exhibited Scout spirit. I am
trying to get some assistance on this before Monday 11/21 when a special
committee meeting has been scheduled to hear this issue with Disctrict
and sponsoring agency attendants since both have heard from the parents
of the injured boy.
I would hate to see a boy kicked out or to force the parents into attend
ing every troop function (they wouldn't so he couldn't) but my reservati
ons of his behavior not withstanding, if something is not "done" we will
probably loose at least two and possibly more kids once everyone in the
troop is made aware. At this time only a few scouts and parents are
aware of the incident.
Please be generous with your assistance since this must be the
proverbial "rock and the hard place" and I personally don't know what we
should do. Any and all comments are encouraged and welcomed.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City