Re: YPP: Advice Requested (relates to Background Check)
Lynn Whited (whited@ASTROSUN.TN.CORNELL.EDU)
Fri, 28 Oct 1994 13:05:00 EDT
I'm sorry for posting this to the group, it is more specifically for the
original poster. I have forgotten who that was. I wasn't going to respond
to any of this, but Jim Hermann wrote something that brought back many
old feelings that I though were gone.
>I don't want to promote sterotypes, but I would suggest that
>dancing troops have more than their "share" of gays. If you
>want to allow your son to persue this interest, then he needs
>to be able to deal with this situation. Otherwise, pick another
Have you considered how you will react, if you decide to have a frank
discussion with your son about homosexuality, if your son lets you know
he is "confused" and having homosexual feelings himself? I agree with
Jim that dance troops and theatre troops have more than their 'share' of
gays. I am not saying your son is homosexual, and I'm not saying all
dancers are homosexuals. But what if? My cousin, was gay. No one in
the family even considered it (he was involved in the theatre) until
he came 'out' during college. I had never been so angry at my parents,
aunts, & uncles, as I was then. Up until the point of his admitting he was
gay, he was the family 'darling'. Then suddenly, he was the relative no one
talked about or to...including his own parents. He died several years ago
alone, of AIDS, except for his lover by his bed side. To this day, his
parents won't admit that he died of AIDS (it was pnuemnonia you know). My
parents and other aunts & uncles won't discuss it out of 'respect' for his
parents. Being homosexual was not a choice for him, it was what he was.
He once told me that, he wished he could be heterosexual, so that he could
have his family back. Sometimes, I wonder what would of happened if
he admitted in High School that he had homosexual feelings. Then I shudder.
PLEASE, be ready for anything, if you start a discussion with your son.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City