Re: YPP: Advice Requested (relates to Background Check)
Jim Miller, Jr. (jmillerjr@LSFCU.ORG)
Thu, 27 Oct 1994 15:25:31 EST-5EDT
On Wed, 26 Oct 1994 BRAMLET@ECC4.ATENG.AZ.HONEYWELL.COM wrote:
> My son, who is no longer a Scout, is a HS Soph. He is on the varsity
> soccer team, and VERY involved with dance (12 - 15 hours of classes a
> week). This last summer, he attended a two week theatrical dance
> shop held at a local private theater company. While he was there, he
> was invited by the person who manages the company to become involved
> with it.
> I have since heard that this person can best be described as an
> aggressive, gay". He is apparently using this as a way of obtaining
> boys for his own use. I don't feel that I can really go to the Police
> about this, because I have no real proof. Just one person's "Oh!
> I heard that he...". I am extremely leary of letting my son become
> involved in this group, and have serious reservations about letting
> attend the session next summer (which he wants to do). To the best of
> knowlege, he doesn't know about this man's reputation or alleged
> So, do I:
> 1. Ignore the potential problem, and hope that nothing happens?
> 2. Tell him what I heard, and request that he not go?
> 3. Tell him what I heard, and let him make his own decisions?
> 4. Make a scene and forbid him to go?
> (Just kidding here, it wouldn't work anyway. ;) )
> 5. Make a report to the Police and let them handle it?
> 6. Some combination of 1, 2, 3, and 5?
> I have problems with ALL of these actions, for various reasons, some
> which may be more obvious that others, but this question has been
> me for a while now. If what I heard is true, I don't want my son
> near this guy. If it is not true, then am I erring too far on the
> caution? Also, if this is not true, then what started the rumors?
> Chuck Bramlet, ASM Troop 323, Phoenix
> Thunderbird District, Grand Canyon Council
I think your answer number 2 is the closest to what I would do.
Actually, I think this should be a discussion with your son on exactly
what homosexuals are, and his opinions on the situation. He may just say
that he already knows(kids almost always pick up this kind of gossip
long before parents ever do) and be dealing with the situation.
Long before any of the other options, you must trust your son. Along
with this, you must educate him fully on what it is you are trusting him
with. If this means you enter into a graphic discussion of
homosexuality, so be it. Everyone finds out eventually.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City