Re: YPP: Advice Requested (relates to Background Check)
Wed, 26 Oct 1994 14:55:48 MST
In response to your question.
3. Tell him what I heard, and let him make his own decisions?
I go with 3. But he should understand what gay is.
As a student, I did not. When I was a college sophmore a gay student
approached me in his dorm in a very sexual manner. I pushed him away and left.
He chased after me and apologized again and again.
I was more angry at myself for being so innocent and stupid, than at the other
student. Had I had some knowledge I might have predicted the behavior and not
got caught in the situation.
At 16 he is not a child, but needs your guidance. However, to shut him out of
activities might be over-protective. As long as he is knowledgeable and
prepared for the possibility, he will be fine...and prepared for future
situations that you may never be able to predict.
However, if you have facts that this individual is dangerous and forceful, your
son needs to be protected for his own good. Your in a tough spot if all you
have is accusations. Too often people judge and believe only what makes good
One thing you could do,(my Dad did after the above situation) call the guy and
tell him about the terrible rumor you heard; and that you are trusting him with
your son. It's a way of politely letting him know that you know. And if there
is nothing to the rumor, you were honest enough to discuss it openly.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City