Letter of Reccomendation
Greg Stewart (Greg33@AOL.COM)
Fri, 7 Oct 1994 21:29:09 EDT
Thanks for all the help. However, I am still losing sleep over this letter.
A few points I want to make:
>>>1. My posting was not supposed to be about my being "honest". Now that I
reread my post, I see that I asked if I should be honest. This is obviously
a very stupid question. What I was quickly trying to express is, should I
make a big deal out of this two-year-old problem or just ignore it.
To put you good Scouters, who have my best interests at heart, at ease:
..........(raising arm to square, making scout sign)...I hereby do promise to
do my best to live the scout oath and scout law in regards to the matter of
the letter of reccomendation. (lowering arm now because I can't type too
well one-handed). There. I hope that clears that up.
>>>2. I have not been involved with James in BSA for 2 years. As such, I
have no idea if he is qualified for Eagle. I also feel very uncomfortable
talking to him about it because I do not feel it is my job and it would be
taken as "meddling" by most of the leaders in the troop. This is the job of
the SM and Committee Chair. (WAIT....I just remembered! His dad is the SM
and his mom is the Chair! Oh heck anyways. What a mess.)
>>>3. I got my Eagle at age 17 & 362/365. I personally have a pinch point
with 12-year-old Eagles. However, from going through all the heck I did with
James' older brother and seeing the effect it had on him, I believe it would
be very unjust to not give a boy, who had FAIRLY completed all the
requirements, his badge simply because of his age. Thus I do not intend to
make this an issue either. I know I wouldn't get any where even if I did.
>>>4. I completely believe that James is completely innocent regarding any
of the shortcuts or cheating that was (is??) going on. When I interviewed
him, I got the feeling that he could care less about scouting. He did care
about pleasing his dad, me, all other adults. I believe he did not respond
to my request for the list of activities because his dad told him not to. I
also believe that he is not aware that there is or ever was a problem. That
is evidenced by the fact he asked me to give him a letter of reccomendation.
So the problem is how to beat up the parents with out hurting poor innocent
James, who is merely a puppet for an over-achieving dad.
I have decided to write a letter. I will seal it and mail it directly to the
BSA advancement folks in the Council Office. I will also copy the Bishop on
it, as when the poop hits the fan, it will more than likely settle in his
I may even copy James' mom, since she is the committee chair.
Before writing the letter, I plan to call James and ask him for the list of
activities. If he submits one, (it would have to be ficticious) then I will
either show him that it is ficticious, or if I can't, then I will drop the
whole issue. If he doesn't, then I will start my letter by going through
what happened at the BoR for FC, making clear that it was his dad's problem,
Regardless of the outcome of the above, the letter will state that I am not
in a position to reccomend or not reccomend James because I have not been
involved in his BSA activities.
I will also state that from what I can tell, James does his best to live the
scout oath and law.
This is hardly the letter that James expects. I sincerely hope that I do
this whole thing in such a manner as to not offend, embarrass, demotivate or
turn him off to BSA. James is a great kid. His
parents............well........I'll be gracious and not comment.
I have always maintained, ever since I joined at age 11, that BSA would be an
awesome program except for SOME of the adults that have to get involved in
........used to be a beaver.............
PS. That word..."reccomed" or whatever. How do you spell it anyway?? AOL
has no spellcheck. Sorry.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City