Re: Problems in Commish Land...
Sat, 13 Aug 1994 11:59:07 EDT
On Fri, 12 Aug 1994 16:55:47 MST7MDT Wes Mays <WMAYS@ALB.ASCTMD.COM> wrote:
>here's a situation for Commissioners and any other
>interested parties. What would you do if:
>You are an ADC and have recruited an old friend of yours to be a unit
>commissioner. You both earned your Eagle Scout awards in the same
>troop 20 years before. You've known "Bill" for 25+ years. He is
>married and as an 18 month olddaughter.
First, has the friendship continued over the last 20 years as well, or has
there been a separation for several years. I ask this because something may
have happened to change Bill's personality: was he always a skirt-chaser in
his younger days, and does he now find married life too confining? Or maybe
his wife doesn't look so hot after having a kid (don't mean to offend, but
sometime it takes years to get one's body back after having babies), and the
single parents are looking just a _little_ bit better than who he has at home
with the kid. Ask him how things are at home - he may say something that
will show his train of thought on this matter. After all, you two have been
friends for years.
>You hear from other Scouters (whom you know and trust) in your
>area that "Bill" is getting extremely friendly with some of the
>female Cub Scouters, who incidentally, are single parents.
What is "extremely friendly"? Was it flirtation? Did he get caught with his
pants down? Did he know these Cub Scouters from younger days and is only
having friendly banter? Is he playing favorites with them? As an ADC you
would have unit rosters - check to see if the single mothers are mutual
acquaintances, and he is unconsciously playing favorites. A little
background info goes a long way.
>You discretely ask "Bill" if everything is OK and he enthusiastically
>says that everything is fine; in fact, he is enjoying Scouting very
>much. He says he is sorry that he left the program after high >school.
>His record as a Commissioner is OK. He has attended
>Basic Commissioner training and makes the majority of the
>Commissioner staff meetings. He is talking about joining a local Boy
>Scout troop as an ASM.
This scenario kinda reminds me of that earlier posting about keeping one's
hormones in check while on the weekender.
I do not think that he needs to be removed from the position at this time - I
think that the ADC, along with the District Commisssioner, may need to
reassign him to another group of units, and see if the behavior pattern
continues. I would not place him with any more Cub Scout packs; rather would
place him with a couple or three Boy Scout troops, and I would pick units
where female leaders are not in the forefront. That way, he will be plenty
busy to keep from having accusations of fraternizing levelled against him.
While I was at it, I would rotate several staff members, just to keep all
from falling into complacency with their charges.
Since you and Bill are friends for several years, you should be able to talk
straight to the point without straining your friendship over the long haul.
Tell him that he needs to refrain from showing favoritism to any leader while
he is in his role a commissioner (and remind him that when he attends _any_
scout function, he is in his role as commissioner). This may not have to
come as a direct confrontation - since every commissioner staff meeting is
supposed to have some training, then a generalized cautionary review of
fraternization and favoritism should be addressed to the staff at large -
just do it when he is there. He may not be the only one about to fall into
>Food for thought....
This was a pretty good one - thanks, I will incorporate it into my own
Assistant District Commissioner
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